Despite the fact that society is becoming so much more open about it, we still get a lot of thingswrong about bisexuality. As a bisexual who's only had the occasional hookup with women for years — but who is now dating a woman for the past year in and a half in the happiest relationship of my life — I've seen it from all angles. And I've seen a whole lot of misconceptions about bisexuality from the general public, from the queer community, from friends and family, from nearly everyone.
I think part of the problem comes from the fact that, for whatever reason, bisexuals are far more likely to be in heterosexual relationships — like 84 percent of them. "It goes back to societal 'norms,'" Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure, tells Bustle. " I think some would say it's easier to be in a straight relationship. And it's simplifies having to explain to friends, family, co-workers etc. about their preferences. Not to mention, their preferred preference may be the opposite sex even though they may feel attraction and more to another gender."
But this means that bisexuality doesn't get enough exposure. We also don't even have the language for it — I still find it weird being described as being 'in a lesbian relationship' because there's no word for being in a relationship where one of you is bisexual. This sort of bi erasure means that misunderstandings about bisexuality can really flourish. Here's what we're still getting wrong: