Growing up in our culture, we're taught to trust our parents, our teachers, our doctors, and other authority figures. We're not always taught to trust ourselves. This does us a disservice, because there are things nobody knows more about than you know yourself. While others' advice can be helpful, we all need to learn to rely on ourselves and our inner wisdom. As the saying goes, it's more useful to teach someone to fish than it is to feed them, especially if the thing they're fishing for is self-knowledge.
"It's exhausting trying to be everything to everyone. But more to the point, it's unsustainable. Eventually, the psyche just collapses in on itself, like a sinkhole of muck, pressured by the weight of trying to figure out who other people want you to be. To be truly happy, you must honor the truth of you. But all too often, finding this truth is profoundly complicated," licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Paul Hokemeyer J.D., PhD, tells Bustle. "Hold on to your truth and allow it to absorb into your psyche. When you find yourself going into judgment around it, label the judgment as defeating thoughts and push them away."
Here are some things you should not let anybody tell you about yourself, because you really do know better.