Women live in a world where, from a young age, fear is drilled into them. These fears show up in all different ways, but because female sexuality is so repressed to begin with, the bedroom has become a microcosm for them. Women's sexual insecurities vary widely, but they largely stem from the common feeling that who you are is wrong.
If you find yourself struggling with insecurities in the bedroom, you may benefit from working on your confidence in other areas of your life, Astroglide's resident sexologist Dr. Jess O'Reilly, tells Bustle. "Work on cultivating a relationship (in and out of the bedroom) in which you feel comfortable speaking up for what you want," she says. "This might begin with daily interactions like expressing desires with regard to what you want to eat and what you do on the weekends. You’ll also benefit from speaking up when things aren’t working for you (e.g. you don’t always want to watch a specific show). As you become more comfortable asking for what you want outside of the bedroom, the assertion skills will come more easily in bed."
Here are some things women should never have to be afraid to do in bed, because there's nothing wrong with any of them.