8 Signs Your Past Relationship Issues Are Affecting Your Current Relationship

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It's hard to get through a relationship without making at least one mistake. And although it's painful to have hurt someone, it's important to learn from what you've done and move on. Unfortunately, getting over past relationship mistakes can be quite tricky. So, often, new relationships aren't immune to old mistakes either.

“You're not doomed to repeat past mistakes in relationships, but you can easily fall into the same patterns if you aren't aware of them and don't take steps to prevent making them again," board-certified psychiatrist and dating and relationship coach Dr. Susan Edelman tells Bustle. Messing up once is absolutely not a kiss of death for all of your future romantic endeavors, but not dealing with your hangups isn't a good idea either.

There's a myriad of reasons you may not want to address what lead you to cheat, lie, or hurt someone. Usually, it's because your mistake came from somewhere deeper, and accessing that place is even harder than admitting your mistake on its own. "Our mistakes and behaviors usually stem from something deeper than the experience on the surface," Lisa Olivera, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, tells Bustle. "Whether it stems from fear of abandonment, unworthiness, lack of control, fear of failure, lack of healthy relationship role models, or feelings of not being good enough, our behaviors tend to signal the need for looking underneath the surface. Until we understand the function of our behaviors, they become easy to repeat again and again." So if you identify any of these habits in your new relationship, it may mean it's time to take a deeper look at what brought you to this point.

Here are some subtle signs that mistakes from your old relationship are affecting your current relationship.