Vacation flings, popular wisdom goes, are magical but fleeting. Many of us would rather leave them on the beach, in the mountains, or wherever they started than pursue them and risk getting heartbroken. But vacation romances can last, and you shouldn’t let something special get away just because you don’t live in the same place or didn’t originally intend to date long-term.
Be careful not to take the fact that your relationship is wonderful on vacation as evidence that it'll stay that way once your back in your daily routine, advises Lori Salkin, SawYouatSinai.com Senior Matchmaker and Dating Coach. "While great groups of guys and girls do go on weekend getaways, the chances of being at the same five-star resort with your future husband or wife, and finding each other there and hitting it off and continuing the romance back in snowy, slushy freezing cold, can't-get-a-cab-to-save-your-life NYC, are rare."
But that doesn't make it impossible. I proselytize this because my own relationship started off as a summer fling. I met my partner at a nightclub in Ibiza of all places, and I did not expect to see him after that night. But one LinkedIn connection, one conversation in the sand, and one night of dancing later, we were inseparable. When I left in tears, he consoled me by saying we’d see each other again. I literally said, “no we won’t” because I, too, once didn’t believe vacation romances could last. I was obviously wrong, because that was six months ago, and we’re still together.
If your relationship shows any of these signs — some from Salkin and some based on my personal experience — don’t be cynical like I was and dismiss it as a fleeting connection. Make the effort to meet again, even if it means traveling long distances, because in my experience, it’s worth it.