Some people think Valentine's Day is the best day of the year — whether they're single or in a relationship — and some couples certainly go all out for the big day. But for others, even those who have someone to spend it with, celebrating Valentine's Day can be a bit of an "ugh" moment that comes up year after year.
"Couples learn to dislike Valentine’s because of the pressure to be romantic, to do something special, and the disappointment when it doesn’t go right," Tina B. Tessina, aka Dr. Romance, psychotherapist and author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences, tells Bustle.
Sometimes, it can feel impossible to do it right. Either you go too big and it feels cheesy and forced, or you don't do anything and it can feel a little flat and joyless. The solution? Well, there's not one perfect Valentine's Day solution for everyone, but locking yourselves in at home for an all-night sex marathon doesn't sound like a bad idea — regardless of what you think of the holiday. It sounds even better if you order pizza.
OK, even if you're not planning a sex marathon, if you're a sexual person with a partner there's a good chance you'll be getting down this V-day. If you want to take your bedroom game up a notch, here are some positions to celebrate Valentine's Day with a bang.
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The Coital Alignment Technique
How To Do It: Missionary is an old standby, but you can change it up by raising your legs and hiking them over your partner's hips, helping your pelvises align and adding some clitoral stimulation.
Why It's Perfect For Valentine's Day: The intimacy of missionary is combined with extra sensation and stimulation for you, so everyone's a winner.
2
The Crab
How To Do It: While your partner sits on the bed or floor in the crab position, scoot over so you're close to them and slowly lift your pelvis up to guide them inside of you. You may want lube for this one, but it should be comfortable when you get it right.
Why It's Perfect For Valentine's Day: If you're looking to spice things up this Valentine's Day, this position allows you to try something new and different with a great view of each other and plenty of opportunity for eye contact.
3
Spooning
How To Do It: Lay on your sides back-to-front and get nice and close. You can use a toy or focus on finger stimulation, by reaching around front or entering from behind — there are a lot of choices to play with.
Why It's Perfect For Valentine's Day: It's a really connected position, so you and your partner can feel close. Plus, it's perfect for sweet nothings or dirty talk, depending on what floats your boat.
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Lotus
How To Do It: Lower down carefully onto your partner, who should be sitting cross-legged, then gently wrap your arms and legs around them. It's another position where lube might come in handy.
Why It's Perfect For Valentine's Day: It's basically a loving embrace but with penetration, so it seems perfect for a romantic celebration.
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On Top
How To Do It: Have your partner lean against a couch or a wall as you straddle them. They can bend their knees to draw you in closer.
Why It's Perfect For Valentine's Day: If you want to go for the classic cowgirl, by all means do it — this variation just gives you a little more intimacy, without losing the control.
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The Double Dip
How To Do It: This position looks complicated, but just think of doggy style and then with an additional partner laying below. There should be room for everyone's limbs, with a little maneuvering.
Why It's Perfect For Valentine's Day: Some people use holidays like Valentine's Day as an opportunity to really spice things up — and this position is perfect if you're new to threesomes and want to give it a try.
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X Marks The Spot
How To Do It: Lay on your bed while your partner stands in front of you, then slowly rest your legs on their chest. As you guide them inside you, cross your legs at your knee or ankles.
Why It's Perfect For Valentine's Day: This position gives you a sexy view of each other, while leaving you free to play with different fits — and use your hand for a bit of clitoral action.
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Standing Rear Entry
How To Do It: Standing close to a wall (or something else you can hold onto), have your partner enter you from behind. Lifting one leg or spreading them slightly should help, but you may need to stand on something if there's a major height difference.
Why It's Perfect For Valentine's Day: If you want to get a little kinky but keep it just the two of you, this position is great for having sex anywhere — and it provides great G-spot stimulation.
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Modified Doggy
How To Do It: If you're a doggy style fan, start there and slowly lower down onto your elbows for a bit of a variation. If you don't like doggy as much, start laying on your stomach and push yourself up — add a pillow under your hips if you need something a little more comfortable.
Why It's Perfect For Valentine's Day: It's intense but still feels connected and can be a good option if you want something a little rough and romantic all at once. If you like your Valentine's Day with a lot of sensation, this might be the one.
There are a lot of different ways you can celebrate Valentine's Day, but trying out some great sex positions may be a good place to start. Whether you want to go really romantic or totally wild, there's an option out there for you.
