How good is the sex with your partner? It's something that really fascinates a lot of us. And though there's a good chance that you talk to your friends about how good your sex life is (or how not good it is), have you ever actually ranked it down to the percentage point?
That's exactly what 2,000 American adults did in a recent survey conducted by adult retailer EdenFantasys. They asked a whole lot of straight people about how they would rank their partner in the sack. The bad news? Overall, Americans only gave their partners a B- in the bedroom. In fact, with an average score of 80 percent, they barely scraped a B-, which isn't exactly heartening.
Why aren't the grades higher? Well, it often comes down to communication — not being open enough with one another about what we like or need in the bedroom.
"We tend to stick with general questions such as 'what turns you on?' when we first form a new sexual relationship," licensed master social worker and sex therapist Stefani Shaffer-Pond, tells Bustle. "This is such a broad question that it tends to elicit surface level responses such as 'I like candlelight' or 'I really enjoy oral sex.' To be honest? I don't know many people who dislike candlelight. Try probing further: Ask your partner 'what kind of porn do you like to watch?' or 'what was the last image you came to?'" Not many of us are so bold with our questioning or so candid with our discussion — but maybe we should be. If these numbers say anything, it's that there's a lot of room for improvement.
Here's what the survey found, from our best skills to the ones that really need some improvement.