When you're in a brand new relationship and (presumably) floating around on cloud nine, it's easy to overlook potential red flags and signs you're not on the same page as your partner about the relationship. The slightly harsh truth? Even if you and your partner get along well, have a great connection, and genuinely care about each other, it can be difficult to maintain a healthy long-term relationship if the two of you envision the relationship's future differently — and that's especially true if you stay in a relationship when you know you disagree about where it's headed.
"One of you isn’t being authentic if you stay in the relationship and you’re not in alignment with your partner and the direction the relationship is going," Anza Goodbar, Certified Coach, Speaker & Trainer, tells Bustle. "[For example], if you really want to be in a long-term relationship that ends in marriage, and your partner is not interested in the same outcome, you give up a part of your dream and settle for something less than your true desires, it can lead to resentment and regret. It can also cause you to try to convince your partner to change to meet your needs and that never ends favorably."
It's OK if you and your partner are slightly out of sync: two people don't have to share the exact same vision of their ideal romantic future in order to be compatible. However, it becomes problematic when your visions for the relationship's future are fundamentally incompatible (e.g. one of you wants kids and the other doesn't). If you're worried that's the case in your relationship, here are five subtle signs that you and your partner aren't on the same page about your relationship and where it's headed.