How Much Sex Should You Be Having In A Long-Term Relationship? 15 People On How Often They're Getting It On

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When you've been dating someone for a long time, you might eventually start to wonder how much sex is "normal" in a long-term relationship, and whether or not your sex life "measures up." The truth? Every couple is different, and it's normal to experience peaks and valleys in your sex life: sometimes you might be getting busy twice a day, and other times you might go weeks without any sex at all. As long as you and your partner are both happy and comfortable with the frequency of your sex life (and are able to communicate about it), there's no "magic number" for how often you should be having sex.

That being said, it's OK if you're still a little curious about how your sex life compares to others'. Recently, one Reddit user asked the members of r/Sex to weigh in on how often they have sex with their partners, because he'd noticed a "tapering off of sexual frequency" in his relationships — and he wanted to know if this was normal, or whether he simply had a super high libido. His post reads:

If, like this Reddit user, you're also curious about how much sex everyone else is having, here are 15 responses from people about how often they're having sex with their partners.

1Three To Four Times Per Week

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2Once Or Twice Per Week

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3Once Or Twice Per Day

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4Two Or Three Times Per Week

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5Two Or Three Times Per Week, But Sometimes Much More Often

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6Once Or Twice Per Week, Depending On Their Stress Levels

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7Every Time They See Each Other, Multiple Times Per Day

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8Every Day They Can

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9Twice Per Week

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10Two To Four Times Per Week

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11Once Per Day

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12At *Least* Every Three Days

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13Going Through A Dry Spell

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14Four Days Per Week, More Than Once Per Day

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15It Varies, Depending On Stress/Schedules

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So, as evidenced by the wide variety of responses from people, there's no "right" amount of sex that you should strive for. As long as both you and your partner are satisfied and happy with your sex life, there's no need to compare your sexual relationship to anyone else's. And if you're unhappy with your sex life as it currently stands, you shouldn't be afraid to have an open, honest, conversation with your partner so the two of you can work together to take your sex life to new heights.