If You & Your Partner Have These 9 Nighttime Habits, It Could Damage Your Relationship

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While it may not seem like a big deal, what you and your partner do at night can have a pretty big impact on your relationship as a whole. This includes your nightly rituals, what you do before bed, and how you reconnect (or don't reconnect) after a long day apart. And this is, of course, particularly true if you happen to live together.

"Any consistent time together is a good time to bond with your partner," Dr. Catherine Jackson, licensed psychologist and board-certified neurotherapist, tells Bustle. "However, traditionally nighttime and weekends are the best times because that's when most couples are both available after work and/or when other duties have concluded for the day."

In order to keep your relationship healthy, consider how you spend this time together. For example, "making a habit of engaging in activities that cut into bonding time can make your partner feel ignored or alienated and lead to resentment," Dr. Jackson says, "all of which [can be] damaging to your relationship."

Of course, it's fine if one or both of you is busy, has other things going on, or needs to spend some time alone. "But putting work and other things first on a regular basis is likely to be viewed as a significant problem," she says. And it can have some damaging effects over time.

Read on below for some mistakes to avoid, according to experts, as well as what you can do instead.