Nobody likes to be broken up with using clichés. It just doesn’t feel genuine if the words you’re using sound like they’re coming from a movie rather than, well, you. But that doesn’t mean you can’t plan what to say during a breakup. You just have to use lines that are actually meaningful.
Clinical psychologist Daniel Sher tells Bustle you should think carefully about the wording of your breakup before you do it. “If necessary, word it to yourself and ‘practice’ beforehand so that you can focus on promoting understanding rather than potentially hurting or insulting your partner,” he says. “On the other hand, whilst you want to have thought things through, you also don’t want this conversation to seem contrived or inauthentic.”
What most good breakup lines have in common is that they don’t make it personal. A breakup isn’t the time to talk about your partner’s character flaws or play the blame game. Sher advises putting as much of it as possible on yourself. Give off the impression that it’s not them, it’s you — without actually using a cliché like that.
Here are some lines to use to break up with someone as quickly and painlessly as possible.