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The One Sex Toy Every Woman Should Own

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If you're interested in trying a sex toy for the first time, you may not know where to start. If you're used to them sex toy shops are amazing and really fun. But, if you're feeling nervous, a sex toy shop can be intimidating as hell. It feels like everyone in there knows more than you and that all of the dildos are 40 feet tall— and you can feel really self-conscious. Don't worry, I've totally been there. I was lucky enough to have a couple of friends take me to Babeland to get my first ever vibrator. I've returned the favor by gifting some of my best friends their first vibrators. It's the circle of life.

Which brings me to my first point, First of all — you have to get a vibrator. You can use it alone, you can use it with a partner, and it'll blow your mind.

"Vibrators kind of level the playing field for women in the bedroom," Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland, tells Bustle. "A lot of women really need the consistent stimulation on their clitoris to have same experience as men have."

Hot damn. But there are so many different vibrators out there, that it's easy to get overwhelmed. If you have no idea where to start or even how to pick, I have to say that my vote would be: a bullet vibrator.

Whether you want to treat yourself with a massive budget or are just getting started, there are options for you. But why a bullet vibrator? Well, so many reasons.

Most Women Need External Stimulation

Only one in four women actually orgasm from penetration alone, so why would you want a sex toy that didn't give you what you need? A bullet vibrator let's you focus on your clitoris and its amazing nerve endings.

Crave Bullet, $69-$99, Babeland

It's Discreet

If you're nervous to buy your first sex toy, these are about as cutesy and non-intimidating as they get. Plus, you can keep it in your purse, take it with you on holiday— basically it goes anywhere you need an orgasm. If you're only going to have one, get one you can take with you.

Babeland Buzz Vibe, $12, Babeland

It's Easy To Use Alone Or With A Partner

While some toys can be cumbersome when you try to use them during sex, a bullet vibrator fits everywhere you need it too. You can use it on your partner (for a man, try it on the perineum) or just focus on you and use it on yourself. Penetration and vibration? It's an amazing combination.

Crave Vesper, $69-$149, Babeland

If you're only going to have one sex toy, a bullet vibrator is as versatile as it gets. There are so many options, so can get a luxurious one or a basic toy to play around with. But I warn you— once you get your bullet, I'll be very surprised if you stop there. There are so many toys to choose from. So go on, treat yourself.