Like it or not, the person you are today has a lot to do with the environment you grew up in as a kid. Your family likely played a role in cultivating all your glowing qualities. But if you've experienced problems as an adult, or struggle with a few issues — like worrying, impulsivity, or poor communication skills — it may due to bad habits you picked up from your parents.
"Habits and behaviors are defined by what you do and how you react to the world around you," Dr. Bryan Bruno, Medical Director at Mid City TMS, tells Bustle. "But how did those habits form in the first place? It turns out your behavior is heavily influenced by your environment, and your parents’ habits could easily pass down to you during your childhood."
And there are two reasons for this. "In addition to picking up habits from your parents through imitation, science has also proven that some bad habits may be caused by your genetic lottery," Bruno says. It's the whole "nature versus nurture" thing, and both combine to make you you.
But that doesn't mean you're necessarily stuck with the cards you were dealt. If your habits aren't ones you're happy with, it is possible to change. "As we grow we can come to realize not all we saw or learned from our parents is valuable and commendable," relationship coach Rosalind Sedacca, CLC, tells Bustle. "We need to discern behaviors worth emulating and those that should be avoided and shunned. This can be challenging but is always worth the effort as we grow into mature adults." Here are 12 habits you may have picked up from your parents, as well as how to change them.