When a breakup happens, it can feel like your life has been put on hold. All of a sudden everything you thought about your present and your future is thrown off course and trying to get through each day is a struggle. It's hard to figure out where you should pick up and start moving on with your life, as well as exactly how you're supposed to do just that. While many good things can come from a breakup, the immediate after-the-fact is the worst.
According to a survey of 2,000 people by OnePoll, marketing research company, and Yelp Eat24, American adults will endure the pain of a breakup an average of three times in their lifetime. With each breakup, the recovery process will average about six months and it will take anywhere from 12 days to month before people are able to start feeling like themselves again. The survey also found that people tend to give themselves four days to "wallow in sadness," before pulling themselves off the floor and get to moving again.
"Every disappointment is a learning moment," Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., aka Dr. Romance, psychotherapist and author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences, tells Bustle. "After the initial upset, review the dynamics of the relationship and analyze what went wrong, what you could have done better and what you learned. There's no need to give yourself a hard time about it. Just process the information, so you don't repeat mistakes."
But in between the tearful conversations (there will be an average two) and the crying fits (there will be an average of four), people do do other things as a means of being part of life again, even if they do it with a grin-and-bear it style.
Here are the top 10 ways people deal with a breakup.