What A Grown-Ass Woman Does During Oral Sex

When it comes to giving oral sex, grown-ass women do it differently. Grown-ass women know that oral sex is not just about technique or experience. They know that confidence is what gets the job done, and gets it done right. One other essential component to going down on her partner? Having a blast.

You can hone your skills by reading all the tips all you want, but the fact of the matter is that giving great oral is also about your mindset in the moment. You need to go into it 110 percent. You can’t let your head wander, thinking about what’s coming next or where you left your bra when it was tossed across the room 10 minutes ago. A grown-ass woman is aware of this. She keeps her head in the game and listens to her partner's signals. Grown-ass women don’t half-ass anything. It’s just how we roll.

Are you going about blow jobs and cunnilingus like a grown-ass woman? Maybe you are and you don’t even know it. If you’re not really sure, then here’s how to figure it out. The best part is that it's pretty easy to improve if you aren't. Here are four things a grown-ass woman does during oral.

1. She Doesn’t Doubt Herself

If there’s anything to be learned from the "grown-ass woman" series, it’s that such a woman never second-guesses her decisions. Because of this, she always goes in for the kill. She knows that the majority of good oral is about believing in what you’re doing, so she does just that.

2. She Incorporates More Than Just A Few Licks Or Sucks

Regardless of whom she's giving oral to, a grown-ass woman knows that it’s not just about the penis or clitoris. She realizes that the balls, vulva, and perineum need love, too. It’s not about seeing how far you can get a penis down your throat, or stimulating a clit until you feel like your tongue is going to fall off. It’s about looking at the experience as a whole and paying attention to all of it — and enjoying herself through the process.

3. She Takes Her Time

Why rush a good thing? Oral should never feel like it’s something one does as a stepping stone to sex, but rather an experience unto itself. A grown-ass woman relishes the moment of giving oral, and doesn’t concern herself with what happened before or what’s to come. She knows that when it comes to giving oral, it’s about being as present as possible, so that both she and her partner can truly enjoy it.

4. She Knows That It’s Not All About Having An Orgasm

Although multiple orgasms in one romp are never a bad thing, a grown-ass woman doesn’t go into oral sex with the mindset that it must end in an orgasm. Besides, not everyone can orgasm from oral anyway. Instead, she knows that there’s time for orgasms before the night is over, and just because one doesn't come from oral doesn’t mean it can’t still feel fantastic.

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