For this edition of Bustle's Most Wanted, we asked our Rule Breakers to share the items that help them break the rules, or are boundary-bending on their own.
"I'm really into the holistic stuff, and so I do oils and I have a diffuser. I got this idea because I worked a Selena Gomez concert, and my job was to carry her diffuser around behind her. She has lupus, so she has trouble with anxiety and depression, and she uses oils to calm herself before she goes onstage."
Bustle Recommends: Vitruvi Stone Diffuser, $119
"CoCo~Shea skin products are all organic. [The brand] is run by a Muslim woman small business owner who works on each product by hand."
Activated Charcoal Body Scrub, $10
"I love Usborne books for teaching my kids to read! They focus on teaching reading through phonetics and we have had great success with this method!"
"We live in a time when people are constantly speaking over one another, often without realizing it. For someone who is naturally soft-spoken, like myself, it can be quite intimidating. Now, when I'm going to be in an already loud environment, I have more control over being heard. If someone attempts to talk over me, I just gradually turn up the volume until they get the point, shut the hell up, and listen."
WinBridge Wireless Voice Amplifier for Teachers, $63
"I love a good sneaker. These are the ones I wear on stage performing."
Wmns Dunk Sky Hi Sp 'Liquid Gold', $1250
"I carry hot sauce in my purse. But even going to galas — where it’s red carpet, black-tie gowns — I will put hot sauce in my bag and I will bust it out at the table, and I don’t care. I need my food to taste good. Tapatio is the one I carry in my purse."
Tapatio Salsa Picante Hot Sauce, $2.33
"I think it's so rule breaking because I have a very close relationship with my family, but nobody lives nearby. It is a very good way to have that connection with the people that you care about most — family, friends, whoever it is — and have a moment where you can feel like it's not just a text.It's not just a phone call. You are there and you're present and you can't be also watching TV at the same time. You are connecting with that other person."
"A Squatty Potty, which is a stool you put in front of the toilet to change your body position so it makes it easier for you to poop."
Squatty Potty The Original Bathroom Toilet Stool, $24.99
"They are amazing for walking meetings."
Beats Studio3 Wireless Over‑Ear Headphones, $349.50
"Lunapads period boxers are something I recommend to anyone who is looking for masculine-affirming periodwear. When I’m bleeding, the Lunapads boxers almost make me forget I’m on my period. They’re also a rule-breaking brand anyway, having featured and hired trans and gender nonconforming folks since before our identities were considered 'trendy.'"
Boxer Brief, $31.99 (Size XS - 3 XL)
"I'm really sensitive to dairy. And I used to love yogurt so much, but it makes me just super nauseous now and I cannot. It's not worth it. So I usually just look longingly at yogurt. I've tried so many different nut yogurts, and hate them all. This one's just so amazing. I feel like it could change the world."
"Mauricio Bermudez at Suit Caroline tipped me off to it when I got my hair colored there — he swears by it and it really helps my scalp. I def recommend."
Milk Shake Leave In Conditioner, $12 - $20
"If I can recommend a rule-breaking wine to anyone, it's always going to be Els Jelipins. This wine was made by a woman outside of Catalonia. She's the only one in the region doing that. They're incredible wines."
"I probably sound like a broken record but: CBD. Starting your own business is stressful, starting your own business in a nascent (and, to many, controversial) industry is doubly so. Hemp-derived, full-spectrum CBD is something I take on a daily basis to help keep me well-rested and feeling less stressed. Some of my favorite products are Ananda Hemp Spectrum 600 tincture and Lord Jones High CBD gumdrops and espresso chews."
Lord Jones High CBD All Natural Old Fashioned Gumdrops, $45
"You can put it in your beard, put it in your hair, it's great. It's a universal scent, it's universal oil, anyone and everyone could wear it. And it smells good as well."
Bearded Dame Hair Elixir, $36
"They really, really challenge people. I remember the first time, because [before that] I would never have worn a crop top. Six years ago, my friend Kim came to my video shoot, the 'She Keeps Me Warm' video shoot, and she was wearing a crop top, and I remember just being like, 'She's not allowed to do that. We can't do stuff like that.' It impacted me so much that I feel like I always have to give a shout out to Kim for just being this f*cking badass crop top angel."
Bustle Recommends: Urban Bliss Plus Tie Front Long Sleeve Crop (Size 12 - 20), $26.50
"I really have been loving the Leuchtturm. It's a specific brand of notebook that a lot of journalers swear by, but what I like about it is that it's set up to be easy to journal. There's an index at the front, all the pages come numbered, so that you can view whatever you want on whatever page you want and always find what you need later. So, you could break the rules of a journal. It doesn't have to be chronological, you don't have to write each day as it happens. You can add in collages just because you feel like it or lists or whatever you want. You can paste in a picture of whatever celebrity you're really excited about at the moment. Doesn't matter. You can always find what you want later because it's all numbered and because it's set up in a way that the pages will let you break the rules, I guess, of journaling."
Leuchtturm1917 Medium Size Hardcover A5 Notebook, $19.95
"My favorite rule-breaking product is my THINX period proof underwear! I think it's incredible that this even exists! THINX is definitely breaking all the rules and making menstruation an everyday topic and providing innovative products for everyone who bleeds, AND they actually work!"
"I am obsessed with it. I think it is so valuable and so important. It breaks all the rules of what what a news show should be. It offers hard-hitting journalism, and interviews with members of Congress, some brilliant writers, the White House Press Corps. It's very queer, there are many people of color on the show. It's just defiantly human, and it doesn't act like politics exist in a vacuum. These are real people whose lives are changed by this. The show is hilarious, and fun. It really gets the morning started right. This isn't my only news source, but it gets me revved up to call my reps, to try to make a difference, to be informed, to go have fun, and I would recommend it to everyone...And the hosts are wonderful. They're best friends, and they have such a powerful warmth to them as they address these stories, and the way they're affecting real humans in our world."
"It stays forever. I feel like anytime that I put it on, it feels like you're about to fuck shit up. Red lipstick is just good for life and moral support."
Maybelline Superstay Matte Ink in Pioneer, $5.29
"Coconut oil is a fucking rule breaker. It's a game changer, man ... When I realized that I could take my makeup off with coconut oil, and I can moisturize my face with coconut oil, or I could put coconut oil in my eye if my eye was inflamed... like, there's just so many uses."
Bustle Recommends: 365 Everyday Value Organic Virgin Coconut Oil, $6.99
"Honestly anything Zoë Ligon sells on her online sex shop, Spectrum Boutique. She's my favorite rule breaker at the moment, from everything she puts out from her 'Sex Stuff' videos to her latest Salty World interview. It's all about your personal preference when it comes to sex toys and accessories, but I can say my favorites that her shop carries are A) the Stockroom leather bust harness. It's my favorite functional and fashionable bondage gear I've ever worn, and B) the Tantus Perfect Plug. Tantus makes the best eco-friendly, high-grade silicone products ever!"
Bust Harness - In Leather or PVC, $95
"All of us [in the endo community] who have digestive problems, we've all gone through [other shake brands] and we're like, uh, they're chalky and da, da, da. These are so good."
Kate Farms Komplete, $43 for 12