Getting over a breakup is different for everyone. Some people know how to get through a breakup relatively unscathed — they practice effortless self-care, focus on the positive, and move on. But other people prefer to go into hibernation and listen to the best breakup playlist on repeat while watching Law and Order. And that's OK too.
"There is an art to breaking up with someone," Audrey Hope, a celebrity relationship expert, tells Bustle. "If you do what needs to be done, you can sail through it." So how do you know what needs to be done? Well, that's up to you, but there are a few reliable places to turn to.
For example, music can do us a lot of good when we're in emotional pain. In the words of Elton John, "If someone else is suffering enough oh to write it down/When every single word makes sense/Then it's easier to have those songs around." In other words, listening to angsty songs when you're heartbroken can be the best kind of therapy.
If you're struggling to get over someone or deal with a breakup, don't be afraid to do some musical exploration — there is an endless amount of amazing music out there that might be able to speak to just how you're feeling. Here are 11 of the best breakup playlists, no matter what your post-split mood is.
When All You Want Is Your Dog And Your Pickup Truck
I'm not a huge country music fan, but who am I to judge? If you're feeling down in the dumps and love a little country, this playlist has your number.
When You Just Need Girl Power
If you want the musical version of all your friends sitting around telling you how amazing you are, this is it — from "Shout Out To My Ex" to "Survivor", you're going to be fully pumped.
When They Weren't Even Yours To Begin With
With this weirdly specific title of "Break up music even if you didn't break up with someone", this playlist caters to the breakups of relationships that never were. How do you get over someone you never had to begin with? This playlist knows how.
When You're Ready For All The Emotions
Nicki Minaj meets Florence + The Machine meets Ed Sheeran meets Rascal Flats? This playlist keeps an up-to-date account of all the major breakup songs, so you can get a little bit of everything.
And As A Bonus...
I'll just say this once: It's the best music for any situation. Hands down. Period. Scream your lungs out to "Burn" during a breakup and try not to be moved. I will fight you on this.
Breaking up may never be great, but there's a perverse pleasure in listen to some really intense music and feeling sorry for yourself. So let it all hang out. Do some exploration, sing your heart out, and help yourself get over it. Like Elton says, "Sad songs say so much."