Even if we don't always discuss it, being kinky isn't uncommon. Although for a long time it was kept in dark corners of the world because people were afraid to admit to the fact that their brand of sexuality wasn't run of the mill, in recent years, especially with the release of the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise, people are being more vocal about what turns them on — and off.
“There are many people, more than you think, who are not vanilla,” sex expert Dr. Logan Levkoff tells Bustle. “We’re not all supposed to experience our sexuality the same way… and we’re understanding that more than ever."
Recently, the following question was posted on Reddit: What taboo sexual act are you willing to admit to liking? As is often the case with Reddit, the responses came flooding in, because who doesn't want to share their kink with a bunch of strangers when you're hiding behind a handle? It offers a safe space to come clean about the sexual taboos that sometimes, depending on the company, can raise an eyebrow.
Because we have reached a point where being kinky isn't being shamed the way it used to, Reddit's timing for the proposed question is perfect. Here are 11 sexual taboos that were shared on Reddit.
Whether it's anilingus, anal sex, or prostate massages, anal play is definitely becoming more mainstream.
2. Public Sex
If done correctly, as in you make sure you don't get caught, sex in public is really fun — especially with the weather getting better.
3. Knife Play
Knife play, like everything that falls in the BDSM category, requires lots of communication and mindfulness.
Pegging is pretty much what anal was 20 years ago — and more people than you might think are experimenting with it.
5. The Rusty Trombone
Never heard of The Rusty Trombone? Well, now you have.
6. Dressing Up
I actually dated someone who loved to wear my lacy underwear. And it was kinda hot, to be honest.
7. Adult Breastfeeding
This particular sex act actually might count as Autonepiophilia — the sexual desire to be treated like a baby.
8. Foot Fetish
Although foot fetishes are fairly common, they're still considered taboo.
From sex in public to being watched by a third party, exhibitionism is all about being seen or caught in the act.
For those of us who didn't know what Urolagnia was, the controversy around Donald Trump's alleged golden shower party showed us the light.
As long as it's between two consenting adults, there's no such thing as being too rough — well, not until you use your safe word, which is paramount in the BDSM community.
Human sexuality is complicated and swimming with kinks and fetishes, some of which might seem more than a little strange to you. But if we all accept that anything goes when it comes to sex as long as it's consensual, what one person does behind closed doors has nothing to do with you and vice versa. So, if you have a kink or two, don't be afraid to share it with your partner. A truly open partner isn't going to shame for anything that gets you off; they might even be willing to explore the fetish with you.