15 Behaviors That Can Make Someone Toxic To Be Around

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Everyone has a few negative qualities. And you know what? That's fine. We can't all be 100 percent reasonable, and kind, and thoughtful 100 percent of the time. But it's important to recognize the signs someone is toxic, because that is when negative qualities may move past mistakes we might make every day.

And the best place to start is by knowing what constitutes toxic behavior. "For some people, having this knowledge is enough for behavioral change, [while] others may need to delve deeper into their consciousness and implement a more intensive fix, perhaps through therapy," therapist Talia Wagner, LMFT tells Bustle.

That's one way to notice toxicity, and get rid of it. Another way is by taking the temperature of the room, after you chat with others. "I encourage clients to discover what their 'whisper brand' is within their network," executive and life coach Regan Walsh tells Bustle. "Your whisper brand is what people say about [you once you leave the room] — good, bad, or indifferent."

Since we all want to be a positive force in the world, and leave others better than we found them, this may be an interesting lens to peek through. (Was the interaction a good one? Did everyone have kind things to say? Was there a positive vibe?) That's not to say we should become too hung up on what others think, but considering your "whisper brand" can certainly be eye-opening — as well as super helpful when it comes to recognizing toxicity. Here are a few habits and behaviors that can make someone toxic to be around, as well as how to balance them out.