Some people can tell you the exact moment they realized they wanted to become parents. Others, however, can tell you the exact moment they realized they never want kids. Ever. Which, of course, is exactly the point of our AskReddit thread du jour: Submitted by Redditor u/xxena, it asked the denizens of the AskReddit community, “When did you have an ‘I don’t ever want to have kids’ moment?” And although the thread isn’t new — it was originally posted about five months ago — the stories within it all drive home one important point: Kids are not for everyone, and that is just fine.
What the point is not is that kids are terrible (althought here are plenty of tantrums in the thread), or that people who have kids are terrible (although there’s a lot of bad parenting witnessed by others in the thread, too), or that people who don’t have kids are somehow superior to people who do have them (there's some sanctimoniousness in there, too). I bring up all these stories because our culture is often so relentless in pushing this narrative on us that insists that we must have kids, that of course we should want kids, that we’ll change our minds later even if we don’t want kids right now — and honestly, that is BS. Not having kids is just as valid a life choice as having kids; everyone should be free to make their own decisions. (Also, this is why safe, legal access to birth control, reproductive health care, maternity care, and abortion services is so important. JUST SAYIN’.)
What’s more, you don’t need to be able to point to one specific moment that turned you off kids forever. No one ever needs to justify why they don’t have or want kids; “I don’t want them” is always enough.
It can, however, be hilariously, cringeworthily entertaining to read some of the stories that do peg the whole thing to a particular experience, though — so that’s what we’re going to do here today. Head on over to AskReddit for more; there’s plenty where this came from.