Anyone who's been in a long-term relationship has probably experienced the disappointment of realizing you're just not as hot for each other as you were when you met. (If you haven't, please teach me your ways). If you don't know how to keep the passion alive, your relationship risks fizzling as time goes on. But fortunately, there are some simple things you can do to maintain the spark your relationship started off with.
A decline in sex drive can stem from a number of issues, like stress, exhaustion, medications, emotional disconnect, and lifestyle changes (like, for example, a new baby). If you're feeling disinterested in sex and the usual tricks in the book don't work, if may be worth it to talk to a professional.
"A turning point can be when you no longer want your partner to touch you in a sexual way, if you recoil at the thought of having sex, if this is not something that is situational (like becoming new parents), or if you still have fantasies and masturbate but find yourself not interested in being sexually close to your partner," couples therapist Marissa Nelson, LMFT tells Bustle.
But feeling a bit of a dip in excitement after a few weeks, months, or years is totally normal — and also preventable. Here are some tips to get back to the honeymoon phase.