Having oral sex can be amazing— whether you're giving or receiving. I'm a huge fan. But not everyone is. Now, I get it. Some people can feel anxious and exposed when someone is giving them oral sex. And some people can feel panicky about giving oral sex themselves. But if you breathe through it, you'll get the hang of it.
"If you suffer from performance anxiety, be sure to breathe," Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure, tells Bustle. "Focus your inhale and exhale using a non obvious pattern to keep you present. If you're thinking about your inhale or exhale then thoughts can't pop in your mind. If a new distracting thought enters send it away (say something like" 'Bye bye thought!") and go back to inhale exhale."
Seriously, I always loved giving oral sex, but used to feel so uncomfortable when anyone went down on me. Over the years I managed to get used to it– and then really effing enjoy it. And there are so many great things about oral sex, it's really worth learning how to relax into it. It's a great way to feel connected to your partner, plus it just has a basic, raw appeal. Trust. Here's why you should be getting more of it in your life: