Are you a hopeless romantic or a hopeful romantic? As Dr. Krystal White, author of the upcoming The Letter Code, tells Bustle, "On the surface, there's not much difference between the two." According to Dr. White, both types tend to see their partners through rose colored glasses, and both types also may tend to fall for new partners fairly quickly. However, according to experts including Dr. White, there are a few key differences between how hopeful and hopeless romantics approach love.
You may be familiar with our first type: the hopeless romantic. This is the type of person who loves being in love, and who has fairytale-esque expectations for what a relationship should be. And hey, there's nothing wrong with that: In fact, a 2016 study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that being a hopeless romantic can be really good for your love life.
According to Dr. White, hopeless romantics believe that love is the "ultimate answer, the most prized and valuable destination, and the meaning of life as we know it." Just to be clear, it's not a dysfunctional way of thinking, she says — instead, it's all about choosing to love someone in a way that's very unconditional and accepting.
Hopeful romantics, on the other hand, have a slightly different way of thinking about love. That in mind, here are some things that happen when you're a hopeful romantic, according to experts.