8 Awkward Moments In Bed That Are Totally Common, According To Experts


Whether you're single or in a long-term committed relationship, you might experience uncomfortable moments during sex. Maybe you run into physical discomfort, like feeling pain with deep penetration. Or maybe you feel emotionally uncomfortable when your partner asks you to try something new with them. Either way, it's very common to experience discomfort during sex, according to experts.

"Sex is best when two people feel safe enough to truly communicate," Channa Bromley, a dating and relationship coach for Relationship Hero with specialization in sex and empowerment, tells Bustle. "It’s important to feel comfortable communicating with your partner," she says. When it comes to intimacy, though, it can sometimes be difficult to talk about uncomfortable moments in bed.

If you find yourself in a position where you're struggling to speak up, remember to take ownership of yourself. "Your body, your emotions, your rules," she says. "If something isn't working for you, know that it is perfectly acceptable to say something. It is a self-honoring choice to speak up. No one can invalidate how you feel other than yourself."

Another way to build confidence in your sex life with your partner is to practice building confidence in other areas of your life, Bromley says. Consider making new friends, picking up a difficult new hobby, or even learning a new language.

Here are some uncomfortable moments during sex that are actually very common, according to experts.