9 Early Signs A Relationship Won't Last Long-Term, According To Experts

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When you're in the beginning stages of a brand new relationship, it's easy to get swept up in how amazing everything feels — after all, it's not called the 'honeymoon phase' for nothing. But if your goal is long-term love, it's important to be able to view your new partner without rose-colored glasses, and be aware of the early signs the relationship won't last long-term. Yes, relationships tend to get stronger and deeper over time, and a slightly rocky beginning doesn't necessarily spell doom for the relationship. That being said, it's unwise to sweep red flags under the rug, because often, the beginning of a relationship reveals a lot about how things will play out in the long run.

"If you want to know how a story ends, look at how it begins," Shirley Johnson, a psychotherapist who specializes in helping women build self-confidence and heal co-dependent tendencies, tells Bustle. "What is most important in the early parts of the relationship [is] to actually be realistic about what one is experiencing. Paying attention to what is going wonderfully, and what is actually not working... When being aware of what is going on in a relationship, even of something painful, there is way more of a chance to actually address and possibly heal the issue and create a long-term relationship."

It might feel like you're being overly cynical if you're actively looking out for red flags in a new relationship, but you're actually much better off if you notice something that has you questioning the future of your relationship early on: that way, you'll have a chance to address it before any resentment builds or you waste more of your precious time. If you want to make sure that your new boo has real potential. Here are nine signs that could indicate your new partner isn't long-term love material.