9 Positions For When You Want To Feel Closer To Your Partner
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One doesn't have to pore over the Kama Sutra to know that there is a sex position for every mood. Whether it's an intense quickie in the bathroom with someone you don't plan to see again or a multiple-hour fest of "love making," for the most part, there's no end to options when it comes to sex positions. This is great for those who get bored easily and those who would like to expand their sex position repertoire. Honestly, can we ever have too many sex positions from which to choose? No.

But sometimes, for whatever reason, it can feel difficult to find a sex position that fits how you're feeling. Sometimes you find yourself weeding through the list you have in your head, coming up empty when trying to find the right "cure" so to speak. This can especially be the case when you're looking for a position that will make you feel closer to your partner — and I'm not just talking physically closer, but emotionally closer, too.

Connection — spiritual, emotional, and otherwise — isn't always easy to find. Because that's the case, allow me to cut down your search time a little bit. If you want to feel closer to your partner, here are nine sex position to try.


Doggy With Vibrator

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How to do it: While in doggy style, reach for your favorite vibrator (or the closest vibrator), and proceed to stimulate your clitoris while your partner penetrates you from behind.

Why it will make you feel closer: For some, introducing a sex toy to the mix takes time. Because of this, when you're finally ready to do so, it can definitely make you feel closer.


Coital Alignment Technique

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How to do it: Because this one is so similar to the missionary position, it's best to start there. Next, have your partner pull their pelvis up so it's a bit higher than yours, and get to grinding. Yes, this position involves more grinding than the usual in-out motion.

Why it will make you feel closer: For the most part, the coital alignment technique is a really intimate position. It's taking missionary — with that physical and emotional closeness — but intensifying it. It also ups your chances of having an orgasm and once that happens, the oxytocin that's released will make you feel even closer.


Weak In The Knees

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How to do it: With your partner on their back, straddle their face so they can give you oral sex.

Why it will make you feel closer: Oral sex, for the most part, is a fairly intimate act. Once you add in the sitting-on-the face aspect, it gets even more intimate because, well, you're on your partner's face, which will make you both feel closer.



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How to do it: While your partner sits cross-legged, lower yourself into their lap (facing them), then wrap your arms and legs around them. From here, it's about a rocking motion more than anything else.

Why it will make you feel closer: If there ever were a sex position that would make you feel closer, then this is it. You're not just physically close, but emotionally close because hugging and rocking, without a single care in the world, will do that.


Modified Doggy

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How to do it: Either starting in doggy style or flat on your stomach, have your partner penetrate your from behind while parallel with your body.

Why it will make you feel closer: Modified doggy takes the physical pleasure of doggy style and allows for something that the traditional version does not: Kissing. Between being able to kiss your partner and feel their entire body against yours with that deep penetration, it's a closeness delight.


Sideways Straddle

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How to do it: Have your partner lie down, with one leg bent, then straddle their thigh. You want to slide yourself down onto their penis and use their thigh to stimulate your clitoris.

Why it will make you feel closer: Again, like coital alignment, you have a position that's great for the female orgasm. When you orgasms, you just naturally feels closer to your partner than if you don't have an orgasm. Thanks, oxytocin!



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How to do it: While lying on your sides, facing the same direction, have your partner penetrate you from there. Yes, this will involve a bit of situating before everything is in place.

Why it will make you feel closer: Cuddling and sex? It's like this position was made to make one feel closer to their partner.


The Crab

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How to do it: Although this position may seem difficult in theory, in execution, it's easy. It's just a matter of facing your partner, while in the crab position you probably both mastered in grammar school, then lowering yourself onto them and putting your legs on their shoulders. See? Easy peasy!

Why it will make you feel closer: Because this position requires a lot of finagling and communication (and laughing), it's hard not to feel close while in it. You're on the same team trying to figure out how best to pull off the position while having a lot of fun in the process.


Mutual Masturbation

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How to do it: For this one, it's all about masturbating within eye sight of your partner, so the experience is shared.

Why it will make you feel closer: Often masturbation is thought of as a private thing. So when you take something that's deemed private and share it with someone else, you automatically feel closer to them. You're giving them a rare and unique look into how you touch yourself and it's not something that people often share with someone else.


The Proposal

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How to do it: While on both your knees, have your partner get down on one knee then penetrate you from that position. Depending on how much taller (or shorter) your partner is, could mean more or a little adjusting to get the right fit. Also, you definitely want a pillow or blanket under your knees.

Why it will make you feel closer: As is the case with the crab position, this requires some adjustment, so that immediately adds an element of closeness because it requires communication. You also have your eyes locked and, not to ignore the obvious, your partner is in the traditional proposal position (hence the name) — all components for making one feel closer during sex.

For all the times you want a hot quickie, you probably want a sexual experience that makes you feel excessively closer to your partner, too. If you're creative enough, there really is no end to the sex positions you can experiment with, but these nine should get you off on the right foot.

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