Do Opposites Attract? 7 Benefits Of Dating Someone Different From You, According To Experts


Even though it makes sense to date some who's a lot like you, don't rule out the idea of dating someone who is your opposite, either. If your partner happens to have a different outlook on life, different personality traits, and even different interests, it can make for a fun and interesting relationship. And it might even make you a stronger couple, in a lot of ways, too.

Of course, you'll "still want to make sure you are aligned with someone who understands and values your core beliefs," Latasha Matthews, LPC, CPCS, CPLC, CAMS, an individual, couples, and family therapist, tells Bustle. "You also want to make sure that your non-negotiable items are not overlooked when establishing a relationship where opposites could be attractive. Core beliefs [...] could be areas that you might want to have some commonality in."

It might not work out, for example, if you don't define cheating in the same way. Or if you have a drastically different stance on finances. Or if you want different things in terms of life's biggest decisions, like marriage and kids. With the smaller stuff, though, dating your opposite can come with a surprising amount of benefits, experts say, including many of the ones listed below.