Here Are 13 Straight Up Insane Requests Bridesmaids & Groomsmen Have Gotten At Weddings
Wedding season is in full force, leaving many of us reminiscing about nuptials of days of yore — both good and bad. While most memories focus on the bride and groom, let us not forget the people who stand next to them on the big day. A recent Reddit conversation centers around the craziest requests bridesmaids and groomsmen have gotten on their friends' wedding days, and it's enough to make you never want to be in someone's wedding ever again.
To be fair, weddings are highly emotional times for a number of reasons. It's supposed to be this monumental, epic day when two people commit to spending the rest of their lives together; and let's be honest: the planning of it largely falls on the bride-to-be, in most cases. This is more than enough to help us understand even the worst bridezilla stories. Regardless, these stories from the best friends of the newlyweds are too crazy not to share and will probably make you go, "Meh," if you someone asks you to be in their wedding.
While we can all understand a bit of drama here and there when it comes to saying, "I do," some of these are just too much.
1. Replaced As A Bridesmaid
"I was supposed to be a bridesmaid in a wedding of a male friend. I had tried to befriend the bride because the groom was a childhood friend.
"All of the planning leading up to the big day was a total sh*t show, and she used our wedding chat to constantly discuss all of her problems with the groom (ring was too small, they never talked about finances before getting engaged and now she's not sure he makes enough, can you get a prenup for children you don't have yet? Constantly telling us we were bad friends — keep in mind we are all friends with the groom for many years before she was in the picture). I could write a novel about it.
"The final straw for me was when she asked me to plan a bachelorette party, but couldn't tell me anything about what she was interested in doing (clubbing vs spa day vs beach trip etc.) other than "nothing too wild, but definitely cost effective," and when I presented her with a plan, told me I was a terrible friend and that was the worst bachelorette plan she had ever seen.
2. No Umbrellas Allowed
"Outdoor wedding with no back up plan on the shores of lake Michigan. Pouring rain and wind but the happy couple requested no umbrellas because they wanted to be able to see the faces in the crowd.
"They were able to see the very wet and angry faces of people whose clothes were ruined while the bride and groom stayed dry under the gazebo."
3. Designer Suit Required
"In college I was a best man for a wedding where the bride demanded we all wear designer suits. I had to sell a guitar to afford just the rental. I had no money before, and after I had no money and one less guitar.
"Then at the reception the groom pulled me aside and told me it was my job as best man to make sure their marriage went well. I was supposed to check in and help them with marriage stuff to make sure they didn't get divorced.
"I looked him in the eye and said I can't be responsible for your marriage. He didn't talk to me from that second until just a couple months ago. 6 years after his wedding."
4. The Most Expensive Pants Ever
"500 dollar pants. After I refused the bride freaked because it made the wedding party uneven. Groom bought my pants, I wore them once, they divorced. He seems a lot happier with his new wife."
5. Please Do Not Out-Cute The Newlyweds
"I was a bridesmaid and my SO was a groomsman, and we were banned from looking at, speaking to or dancing with each other for fear of 'out-cuting' the happy couple. We'd been together for 5 years at this point.
"We didn't do it, but the request alone was outrageous."
6. No Talking Allowed
"Not being able to leave the head table to talk to my friends — the whole night."
7. Cooking Roasted Duck For 200 People
"Got asked to stand up for a wedding during culinary school for a high school friend. She said she didn't want us to buy presents, but wanted us to help with various wedding things since it was a backyard wedding, like someone help with the flowers, another do favors, table setting, etc. She wanted to know if I could help with dinner. I said sure, and asked her what she wanted help with, figuring it was prep work for someone else to do.
"No, she wanted me to handle the whole dinner. As in cooking for 200 people, as a 19-year-old having only done a year culinary school. She also wanted me to help pay for the food I'd be making, as their gift. She wanted me to make caesar salad, potatoes au gratin, and roast enough ducks for 200, by myself, and pay for about half of it.
"I was learning how to be a pastry chef. I explained and she just stared at me blankly. I told her I could do the cake easily enough, but she insisted she wanted a 'real' cake, from a bakery.
"I told her there wasn't any feasible way I could do it, not only because that's fucking crazy, but because I literally wasn't trained to do it, and I got disinvited from the wedding."
8. Try Not To Ruin The Wedding Photos
"My friends were getting married, and my girlfriend and I were both in the wedding party. The bride's mother suggested that my girlfriend get hair extensions to be in the wedding to not 'ruin the photos' for her daughter. My girlfriend has very short hair, because she has Grave's disease. Her hair has become very brittle and started falling out in clumps.
"I'm sure it wasn't intended to be rude, but telling somebody that have to put on a wig because you don't think they look good enough to be in your daughter's photos seems pretty terrible to me."
9. That Random Guy
"My sister addressed my invite to me and a male friend I had known for about 10 years. A male friend whom she had always had a huge crush on. Even better was that I had been dating my boyfriend for 2 years at this point, and my male friend was engaged. When I asked my sister why she put my friend as my plus one, and not my boyfriend, she said that she didn't want some random guy in her wedding pictures. I went to her wedding solo. No surprise, she and her husband divorced 2 years later and I have been happily married to that 'random guy' now for 15 years."
10. The Quickest Wedding Ever
"My friend decided to get married at a resort in Aspen. We don't live in Colorado and he wasn't offering to pay for flight, hotel, tux, etc... for anyone except him and his wife. They were broke 23-year-olds just like us. Neither parents had the money either. It was a noon wedding and a 2 hour reception immediately following. That's it. Everyone fly home. The bride and groom didn't even stay the night. He got so mad at me when I told him we won't be able to make it. 5 years later he still doesn't talk to me."
11. The Substitute Gardener
"I was the maid of honor. She demanded I come pull weeds out of her parents yard a day or two before the wedding because the reception was at her parent[']s house. I had already gone though multiple ridiculous requests the week leading up to the wedding, so this one I put my foot down and said no. Got through the wedding. No longer friends. She did send a gift when I got married. A center piece from HER wedding, that I had helped make."
12. No Pregnant Women Allowed
"I knew a woman who was a bridesmaid in a relative's wedding. She was married and had been trying to get pregnant for a while. Finally, her and her hubby got lucky and she conceived.
"The bridezilla got furious and kicked her out of the wedding because she would be pregnant in the pictures. [Three] months later, sadly, my friend miscarried. The bride called her with a response along the lines of 'good, well now you can be back in the wedding.'
"Needless to say, she did not even attend it."
13. Photography For Free
"I'm a photographer and my cousin wanted me to shoot their wedding for free as a gift to them. Wedding was also on the other side of the country, and they wouldn't be paying for my flight or room. My pricing typically starts at a few grand and goes up. I was still willing to do it until my cousin wanted me to also throw in finished prints, 350 retouched pics...basically about $3k worth of photo work. Suddenly I came down with a case of 'something else to do that weekend', she still doesn't talk to me, and that's just fine. She never really talked to me before either, come to think of it."