One in three women experience some form of violence at the hands of an intimate partner, according to research by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Women between 18 and 24 are most commonly the age bracket who experience violence at the hands of their partner and 15 percent of all violent crimes is an intimate partner violence crime. The numbers are terrifying to say the least.
Whether it be physical abuse, emotional abuse, or mental abuse, all abuse leaves wounds and a lasting impact. And while it may be easy for people on the outside to say you should just leave the relationship, it's more complicated than that. Anyone who has been in an abusive relationship and has escaped knows that, as with many things in life, leaving is easier said than done. And if children are involved, it's even more difficult. However, for those who have been able to leave their abusive relationship, then comes the aftermath of trying to get their life in order again.
"Getting the strength to get out of an abusive relationship can feel as though you just moved a mountain off you," Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, psychotherapist and author of Smart Relationships: How Successful Women Can Find True Love, tells Bustle. "You probably feel relieved — but you also might feel sad at the loss, and a bit frightened of trusting your love judgment again."
Here's how you change after you get out of an abusive relationship, according to experts.