Even if you've had tons of practice, first dates can be incredibly scary. There's so much pressure to hit it off romantically, plus all those pesky expectations of what might happen — of course you're going to be nervous. You might not always know the exact right things to say to win your date over, but it can't hurt to be aware of what you should never say on a date, because first impressions matter and you don't want to ruin your chances by accidentally putting your foot in your mouth.
"For the most part, first dates are incredibly pressured, self-conscious experiences where you are often preoccupied through the whole experience about how you are coming across to the other person," Rhonda Milrad, founder and Chief Relationship Advisor of Relationup, tells Bustle. "It is actually hard to focus on getting to know your date because you are so focused on your date’s reaction to you."
If you're distracted and nervous, you might not pause to think before you speak — which could mean you let slip something awkward (or worse, offensive). In a recent AskReddit thread, one user asked people to give examples of things you should never say on a date, and their answers are super eye-opening. From the obvious — "I love you" — to the very specific — "Your bicycle seat smells like strawberries" — Reddit users pointed out things that are best left out of first date conversation.
If you want things to lead to a second date, here are 11 things to avoid saying on a date. (At the very least, let this be a reminder to think before you blurt something out to a stranger.)