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50 Questions To Ask Your Partner When You’re Both Super Bored

“What's something you do that your 5-year-old self would find funny?”

These questions to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend will save the day when you're bored.
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Picture this: It’s a weekend with absolutely zero plans. Once you've scrolled through all of Netflix, baked three recipes you found on TikTok, and cleaned your apartment from top to bottom, you and your partner may find yourselves sinking to new depths of boredom. At this point, it might even feel like you've officially discussed everything there is to discuss, and have no option left but to stare at the walls in silence. That is, unless you dive into these 50 expert-approved questions to ask your partner when you're bored.

"Being stuck at home can be a particularly challenging proposition," Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, licensed clinical professional counselor and relationship therapist, tells Bustle. Not only is there a decided lack of stimulation to provide new stories and funny anecdotes, you probably also feel stressed and irritable. And yet, Slatkin says, "it is a great opportunity to spend time together, have fun, and work on your relationship," if you want to.

If you and your honey are stuck in the house, you might as well utilize that time to dive even deeper into your relationship. Behavioral scientist Clarissa Silva suggests using nostalgia as inspiration for what to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend. “Nostalgia helps self-regulate stress in our brain and counteract loneliness, boredom, and anxiety,” she explains. “In relationships, it can help us shift into what matters most [and] strengthen and affirm feelings of love.” Asking your partner interesting questions about their childhood or their favorite memories when you first got together will create a sense of closeness through that nostalgia.

In the same breath, the best questions to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend can also be geared toward the future. According to Silva, these will create a sense of hopefulness and reduce any feelings of monotony or being trapped. “What are the three most important things on your personal bucket list? Asking about future events can strengthen your relationship because it provides goals that you can achieve together,” she tells Bustle.

So, if you’ve got nothing to do, grab a snack, curl up, and scroll through these questions to ask your girlfriend or boyfriend when you're bored.

"What If?" Questions To Ask Your Partner

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Relationship expert Mona Green, ELI-MP suggests the following unexpected questions:

  1. If there was a movie made about your life, who would you want to direct it, and who would play you?
  2. What's a weird question you've been wanting to ask me, but have never gotten around to?
  3. What did you imagine being an adult would be like when you were a kid?
  4. If aliens came to earth, what do you think they would find most interesting about you? About me? About humans? Why?
  5. What's the best piece of advice your grandma gave you?
  6. What's something you do that your 5-year-old self would probably find funny?

Sexual Questions To Ask Your Partner

Becca Hirsch, MA, LMFT, licensed marriage and family therapist, suggests talking to your partner about what you do in the bedroom:

  1. Does it make you feel weird when we talk about sex?
  2. Where do you like to be touched the most?
  3. What's your favorite thing about kissing me? Do you want to try new techniques?
  4. What's something you need from our relationship that you're not currently getting?
  5. What's your idea of a perfect date night?

Simple Questions To Ask Your Partner

When in doubt, you can always go back to the basics:

  1. What are your pet peeves?
  2. If you were a color, what color would you be?
  3. What was your favorite TV show growing up?
  4. What food are you craving right now?
  5. What are some things on your bucket list?
  6. What is your biggest goal in the next year?

Personal Questions To Ask Your Partner

Rori Sassoon, relationship expert and co-founder of the matchmaking agency Platinum Poire, poses questions that run the gamut from steamy to funny:

  1. Who’s the better kisser, you or me?
  2. What's my weirdest quirk that you've noticed?
  3. What habit(s) do you have that you think annoy other people?
  4. If money was no object, where would you live?
  5. What do you think I’m most likely to go viral for?
  6. What celebrity or public figure would you want to be stuck on a desert island with?
  7. What's a favorite movie, band, or TV show that you're embarrassed you like?
  8. If we were to have an imaginary threesome, what celebrity would it be with?

Party Game Questions To Ask Your Partner

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Relationship expert Stephania Cruz recommends sticking to light-hearted questions, especially if you're feeling bored, anxious, or stressed:

  1. If you could take only five movies to a desert island, what would they be?
  2. If you were invisible for two hours, what are some things you would do?
  3. If you could meet anyone in the world, alive or not, who would it be?
  4. If you were granted three wishes, what would they be and why?
  5. What was the worst job you ever had?
  6. Who is the most famous person you have ever met?
  7. What’s the most out-there thing you would do for a million dollars?
  8. Who was the first person you had a crush on? How old were you?
  9. What words do you hope people use when they are describing you?

Quiz Questions To Ask Your Partner

Audrey Hope, relationship coach and therapist, suggests using the extra time at home to test how well you already know each other:

  1. What is my favorite food?
  2. What do I love to do more than anything in the world?
  3. What's my biggest fear?
  4. What's my biggest pet peeve?
  5. When I was a kid, what did I want to be when I grew up?

Fun Questions To Ask Your Partner

Denna Babul, relationship expert and author of Love Strong, offers these fun questions:

  1. What's your secret hidden talent?
  2. What song perfectly describes your high school self?
  3. Who can you do a voice impression of?
  4. What's the best compliment someone has ever given you?
  5. What's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you?

Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner

According to Monica Berg, author of Rethink Love, these queries are always crowd-pleasers:

  1. What is the worst date you’ve ever been on?
  2. What was something you didn’t want me to know about you when we first started dating?
  3. If you had one day to spend as you please without any consequences, what would you do?

Creative Questions To Ask Your Partner

Adina Mahalli, MCT, certified relationship expert, says these questions always make for a good time:

  1. What's your Patronus?
  2. What song always puts you in a good mood?
  3. What's your first memory?

See? There are countless creative questions to ask your girlfriend or boyfriend. So, the next time you have a lull in conversation, feel "blah" about life, or worry that you've officially run out of new things to talk about, pull out this list and you'll be good to go.

Experts:

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, licensed clinical professional counselor and a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist

Mona Green, ELI-MP, relationship expert

Becca Hirsch, MA, LMFT, licensed married and family therapist

Rori Sassoon, relationship expert, author, and cofounder of the matchmaking agency Platinum Poire

Stephania Cruz, relationship expert

Audrey Hope, relationship coach and therapist

Denna Babul, relationship expert and author of Love Strong

Monica Berg, international speaker, spiritual thought leader, and author of Rethink Love

Adina Mahalli, MCT, certified relationship expert and consultant with Maple Holistics

Clarissa Silva, relationship coach, behavioral scientist

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