We’re constantly fascinated by what our zodiac sign says about our love lives, whether it's which signs are most compatible, the best sex positions for each sign, or how each sign handles conflict in relationships. That's why Bustle has enlisted Mecca Woods, a New York City-based Astrologer to tell us all about how astrology is affecting our love lives each week. This week's topic: mistakes Sagittarius women make in relationships.
Ah, Sagittarius; the ninth sign on the zodiac wheel best known for its high-minded values, thirst for fast-flying adventures, and fun-loving nature. Those of us born under this Sun sign tend to stay true to form, preferring the trappings of slap-stick comedy over more serious (read: tedious) business. (Unless of course, you’re a Sagittarius with planets in Scorpio or Capricorn in your birth chart, then serious business is your thing). As someone belonging to this group of gregarious folk, I’m guessing you can imagine my reaction to a tweet I saw a couple weeks ago referring to anyone born under Sagittarius as a “Sagiterrorist.” Yep, you guessed it. I laughed. No, actually I. DIED. Not only is it brilliantly funny as far as astro-insults go but it’s also kind of accurate.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that Sagittarians are by definition, terrorists. Yet in terms of romance, what sometimes starts out as an endearing Sag personality trait can quickly become exhausting to a partner if there isn’t a little balance and compromise mixed in. For an independent Sagittarius, compromise doesn’t always come easy. That’s why I’ve come up with a few faux pas to avoid to help your relationships go smoother.
1. You Know It All
Often lifelong travelers and world citizens, whether by the seat of a plane, a University hall, or a good foreign film, a Sagittarius will attempt to learn everything she can about the world around her. Usually this inspires her to share everything she’s learned, and share, and share, and share some more. Though while your worldliness is alluring, it can just as easily become a turnoff when you dominate the conversation with everything you know and miss the opportunity to really receive what someone else may be bringing to the table. Instead of trying to intellectually out-do your beloved or insist they consistently adopt your point of view (no matter how expansive), explore what they could be trying to teach you. You might learn something.
If there’s one thing a Sag values beyond independence, it’s the truth. Sagittarians are the folk everyone goes to when they want the world narrated to them in blunt, tell it like it is fashion. It’s your realness that rallies the troops and gets people inspired and chances are, if anyone’s dating you, they appreciate your upfront style. Though sometimes, when it comes to the needs of your lover, those arrows of truth are not always warranted or welcome. Not everyone is built as tough as nails. And do you need to insert your opinion into everything? Sometimes a sympathetic ear or a warm hug can be much more powerful than a motivational speech.
3. Loose Lips
Plenty of Sagittarius women I know are funny, energetic, life of the party kinda gals. And just like the boys, they love to entertain anyone within earshot with over the top, personal stories about sex, romance and everything in between. Now this is great if you’re headlining a Vegas show or writing a tell-all book where all the names have been changed to protect the innocent. However, making a habit of sharing your private business, however hilarious or interesting, could be giving others (especially your lover) the impression that you don’t respect boundaries or discretion. When it comes to any relationship, and more importantly a romantic one, trust is paramount to the health of the partnership. Before you go putting you and your partner’s biz in the streets, think first about whether doing so violates the trust in your relationship or your partner’s boundaries. If the answer is yes, find something else to talk about.
4. The C-Word Scares You
Associated with Jupiter (aka Zeus the Greek god known for his famously philandering ways), it’s no surprise why Sagittarius women are known as the bachelorettes of the zodiac. Of course this is not to say that Sagittarians can’t do monogamy, nor is this a case for monogamy (there are plenty of non-monogamous, committed relationships that exist), but it’s just that a Sag would rather die (yes, die) before she gives up her precious freedom to anyone. When left unchecked, this could mean a Sag that sabotages a love connection with flaky behavior, cheating, and the avoidance of their partner’s deeper emotions. However, if it’s a relationship you crave, find someone who welcomes and feeds your independent spirit. Recognize that a commitment doesn’t mean as loss of freedom; it can actually give you more of it as you know exactly where you stand and who you can count on.
5. You Can't Put Down The Rose-Colored Glasses
Known for their trademark optimism, Sagittarians can find the sunny side to just about everything, including a lover. While couples should definitely take turns in celebrating and supporting the wonderfulness in one another, a Sag woman in love can sometimes go overboard with this by seeing a little too much wonderful in an otherwise mediocre mate. While you may see the moon and the stars in the eyes of your new cutie booty, cue up some of that brutal honesty for yourself to determine if they're really as fly as you think they are. You want an equal partner, not a renovation project.
6. Promises, Promises
How many times have you been with your honey, inspired by something you saw or they said, and came up with an idea to beat all ideas ever known to humankind? I’m talking about an idea of summer blockbuster proportions that even Tom Cruise might want in on the deal? And how many times did this idea involve you making some sort of grand gesture to your sweetie? Maybe it’s a month long trip abroad, Jay-Z and Beyoncé tickets, or a quiet night in? Though when it comes time to see that idea through and make good on your promise, you’ve either forgot, lost all interest, or don't have the means to do so. Which of course, leaves a rather disappointed and frustrated lover in your wake. As the zodiac sign most prone to thinking BIG, your mind (and mouth) can sometimes get away from you. The best way to combat this? Think before you speak.
7. You Forget...A Lot.
In Roman mythology, Jupiter was known as the god of the heavens and sky. This means that as a child of Jupiter, a Sagittarius' head is usually somewhere up in the clouds, mulling over some grand theory or envisioning their next major move. This is why many Sags are considered some of the most brilliant leaders, intellectuals, and visionaries in their league. Though, when it comes to the more mundane affairs of the world, say like who's supposed to pick up dinner after work or clothes from the cleaners, this is where a Sag can drop the ball. And it's not that it's intentional, it just feels like it is if you're the one depending on a Sagittarius to do what you both agreed upon. So, Sagittarius, how can you avoid pissing off your significant other (who may or may not be waiting for you to pick them up from the airport or the doctor's office or...)? By putting your mate first from time to time. Not only does this display a little thoughtfulness from your end but it shows that you can be trustworthy too.
8. You're A Little Too Rock 'N' Roll
As a Fire sign, Sagittarians live for the thrill; to boldly go where no Sag has gone before. In addition to your brainiac vibe, passion, confidence, and a balls to the wall attitude is what makes you sexy. Lovers and admirers alike flock to your bedside in a quest to bathe in your flames of glory. But when can this backfire? When you send a would-be doting and stable lover running for cover because you need chaos and crisis in order to feel alive. Now in no way am I suggesting that you put out your own fire (or allow someone else to do it) but if your freewheeling, impulsive style borders more on the side of reckless, it may be time to turn-it down a notch.
9. You Think You’re Oprah
Sagittarians possess a tough, can-do spirit which means there's very little a Sagittarius will let get in their way or get them down. The kinds of everyday challenges that might frustrate, depress, or discourage other people are quickly trampled under the foot of a Sag. So how can this go wrong? When a Sagittarius thinks that their partner should apply this very same approach their life. Instead of making your next date your next social work case, think about whether this person's vision and values align with yours. Then give them a little room to be able to make it happen on their own. Not only will this save you some hurt feelings when your "help" is refused but you protect yourself from love vampires, those that take all they can from you without giving anything of value in return.
10. Vulnerability Makes You Weak
As a freedom-loving sign, Sagittarians pride themselves on their ability to easily detach from complicated emotional entanglements and love matches gone sour. In some cases, their ability to pick-up and move on quickly can be helpful for getting out of a toxic situation. In other cases, where a relationship offers positive growth the Sag ability to hit and quit can rob them of a shot at true intimacy. Why? Because sometimes it's easier to pretend you're unfazed by ups and downs of love, than it is to actually feel every frighteningly uncomfortable emotion that comes with making yourself vulnerable to another human being. The antidote? Recognize that sharing your vulnerability with your partner can actually draw your partner closer.