We’re constantly fascinated by what our zodiac sign says about our love lives, whether it's which signs are most compatible, the best sex positions for each sign, or how each sign handles conflict in relationships. That's why Bustle has enlisted Mecca Woods, a New York City-based Astrologer to tell us all about how astrology is affecting our love lives each week. This week's topic: mistakes Capricorn women make.
When I first began writing horoscopes; my friend and astrology mentor, Rebecca Gordon, said to me “when you write horoscopes, make sure to tailor what you write to what each sign cares about.” Of course, this meant that whenever I got to the astrology forecast for Capricorn, I made certain to write about money and job related opportunities. This is because when it comes to the zodiac, Capricorn represents authority, achievement, status, and wealth. In other words, money and career. It’s not unlikely to find an ambitious Capricorn woman staying up late into wee hours crunching numbers for work, reading Forbes for the next business trend, or going over her bank statements to make sure everything adds up.
However, while most Capricorns aim to be the biggest boss that you’ve seen thus far, achievement is not just about being the top executive at a top firm. Capricorns want to succeed at love, too. She’s the kind of gal who knows what she wants and doesn’t settle until she gets it (like that job promotion). And when she finds someone she wants to be with, her goal is to build an empire with that mate. (Hello, FLOTUS Michelle Obama!) Yet, as determined and successful as the Capricorn woman is, here are a few mistakes she can avoid on her way up the love ladder:
1. They Refuse To Try Something New
As an Earth sign, stability and routine are vital to a Capricorn. While the rest of us slack off, flake out, and fail to follow through, Capricorns recognize that true accomplishment comes by way having a plan, sticking to that plan, and having a backup plan if the first one falls through. However, when Capricorns stick a little too much to what they know; usually out of fear, it can create stagnancy within the relationship. To remedy this, commit yourself to trying at least one new thing a month. Not only will it only give you something fresh to share with your partner, but it will keep you fresh and engaging, too.
2. The Take Care of Too Many People
While the term "doting" is often assigned to Capricorn's opposing sign Cancer, Caps can be quite doting. You can find many Capricorns helping out a friend, family member, or a person in need at any given time or place. Yet this same gift of caring and supporting others can put undue responsibility on their shoulders; attracting people who are a little too needy or setting themselves up to be the person that people always go to when they want something. This, unfortunately, is no different with sex and relationships. In your next love affair, instead of rushing to show your potential match how reliable and supportive you are, wait to see if they can reciprocate the same.
Just like fellow Earth signs Virgo and Taurus, Capricorn women need to leave behind a legacy.
3. They're A Little Too Critical
As high achievers, Capricorns understand and bask in the satisfaction of a job well done. As a result, Capricorns tend to hold themselves and others to very high standards; never failing to call a person out if they fall short of those standards. Yet when it comes to sex and relationships, the Capricorn penchant for excellence can come off as fussy and hypercritical if the only feedback they offer their lover is about everything they feel their mate is doing wrong. By no means should you mince words if you feel like someone you're dating is really screwing up but there are times where not everything that comes to mind should be said.
4. They're Material Girls
Just like fellow Earth signs Virgo and Taurus, Capricorn women need to leave behind a legacy. This usually involves an estate of sorts that they can pass down from generation to generation, or at the very least, something they can rub their haters' faces in. While wanting the high life is by no means a fault, it can be problematic for the Capricorn girl who chooses to stay in a loveless, sexless, or just outright awful relationship because it affords her a certain status. To avoid this, first understand that a true and rewarding relationship needs to go beyond material comfort. You need love too. Hot, hot love.
In fact, self-righteousness is often the side effect of a Capricorn gripped by insecurity. Instead of owning up to their faults, they only point out everyone else's.
5. They're Bossy, Bossy
By nature, Capricorns are born leaders and highly self-motivated. This is why you'll often find Capricorns in supervisory or management positions (yes, at home and work) as telling other people what to and the best way to do it is their thing. Yet, in matters of the heart, a Capricorn's need to stay on top can sometimes come off as overbearing or domineering by a partner who may need a little more 50/50 in a relationship. Recognize that while it's perfectly fine to own your leadership style and ability to get things done, your partner should never be your subordinate. Which leads me to my next point:
6. They're Always Right
Not many people give them credit for it but Capricorns are pretty intuitive creatures. Their sharp insight coupled with and old soul sort of wisdom gives them the ability to create and jump on trends that makes them the go-to people. Yet, when taken to the extreme it's this same gift of foresight that can lead a Capricorn to believe that everything they say and do is right. In fact, self-righteousness is often the side effect of a Capricorn gripped by insecurity. Instead of owning up to their faults, they only point out everyone else's. However, this can be like poison to a relationship, leading your partner to feel like they aren't respected. Instead, learn to honor your partner's input by recognizing there's room for their perspective, voice, or approach too.
7. Compromise Is Not Their Thing
One of the best things about having a Capricorn on your team is that their earthy nature makes them very steadfast and loyal mates. With a Capricorn woman, you never have to worry about her up and leaving you for someone shinier and new (unless of course, you push her) as she knows what it means to truly stick by her lover's side. A Capricorn will never waver or hem and haw on who or what she believes in. She knows what she knows and she is who she is and that's it. However, when she takes her uncompromising nature too far into the bedroom, it can create uneven ground in the relationship. Remember, a healthy partnership is about listening and responding to each other's needs, sharing, and communicating. Stonewalling your mate only breeds resentment.
8. They Have A Hard Time Forgiving
As mentioned, Capricorns tend to stick with who and what they know. This approach is great for creating a foundation or stability in a relationship, yet it's not so great when it comes to letting something or someone go. This is especially true of hurt feelings or grudges. When a Capricorn lacks the ability to forgive, it's because they think that doing so will make them appear weak. They don't see that forgiveness is more about taking back their power than giving it away. That said, the next time you have the opportunity to move past a resentment towards someone you love, take it. Bitterness is never sexy.
Blessed with the ability to keep a cool and rational head when everyone else around them is losing theirs, you'll hardly catch a Capricorn in a puddle of her own tears.
9. Work, Work, Work
Please know that as I write this, my Capricorn boyfriend is sitting in front of his computer, plugging numbers into his timesheet, maniacally chuckling to himself about how many hours he put in at work this month. Why? Because it means a big cash money wad is on the way. Please also know, that this current setup would be no different if he were a Capricorn woman. Yes, there is something about digging in and toiling away at something (and being handsomely rewarded for it) that makes a Capricorn tick; including relationships. While doing the work it takes to sustain a solid partnership is commendable and worthy, it can backfire on the Cap who wastes valuable time, energy (and in some cases, money) on trying to make a relationship work that just shouldn't. Instead use your gift for practicality to see when something (or someone) is broken and walking away instead of attempting to fix it.
10. The Stiff Upper Lip
Blessed with the ability to keep a cool and rational head when everyone else around them is losing theirs, you'll hardly catch a Capricorn in a puddle of her own tears. This because she knows that sometimes you have to suck it up and soldier on when things aren't going your way. However, stoicism can be a bit of a double edged sword for Capricorns. When they cut themselves off from how they truly feel; choosing to repress their emotions, the eventual blowup/ meltdown is just disastrous. In a Cap's mind, they think "I'm the only one who understands me, I'm the only one I can count on." Not true. To alleviate this, get into the practice of understanding that your partner is there to be your rock too and if not, find someone who is.