Common Relationship Mistakes Based On Your Sign

by Teresa Newsome

Do you seem to make the same mistakes over and over again in your relationships? It may be one of the common mistakes based on your sign that many people who share your sun sign make. Whether you believe in the power of the universe in our lives or not, it's kind of uncanny how right-on astrology can seem sometimes. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

The common mistakes and personality traits listed below don't necessarily apply to all people of the same signs. There are a lot of things to consider, like your moon sign and the influence of Venus and Mars in your life. Intuitive healer and astrologer and author of Astrology Made Simple, Ally Mead, told Bustle via email that you really need to take a person's whole chart into consideration to see if they're going to be a good match for you. This brings me to the following list of relationship mistakes, based on some of the most common characteristics of each sign. Knowing yourself better, be it through astrology or just experience and contemplation, is always a good thing. It can lead you closer to what you want, and it can keep you from being guided by your flaws.

1. Aries

If you're an Aries, odds are, you like jump into love head-first. Once things feel right to you, you're not afraid to go from dating to married-with-children in two seconds flat. Sometimes thing means you miss out on important information, like your partner's jerk streak or questionable past, until you're already super emotionally invested. Decisive, confident types make you swoon, which unfortunately often equates to jerks. Slow things down and pay attention, early on.

2. Taurus

If you're a Taurus, you like shiny things, and that includes sexy people. You might get caught up in a super steamy relationship with a red-hot sexual dynamo, only to realize once things cool off that your lover doesn't have the financial stability or maturity to build a shiny life with you. You forget, in the heat of the moment, that you need the full package for long-term satisfaction, and that includes someone who's healthy, responsible, goal-oriented, and not just sexy.

3. Gemini

If you're a Gemini, you want someone you can discuss anything with and do anything with! Because you're a mutable sign, you crave this mental stimulation more than sex sometimes. Unfortunately, sometimes this means you hitch your wagon on flighty types who are all over the place. They have a strong of abandoned hobbies and lost jobs. While they're interesting, eventually you'll want someone you don't have to take care of so much.

4. Cancer

]Cancer's like to be taken care of. They like partners who make them feel safe, loved, provided for, and special. They're also emotional and crave strong emotion in return. If you're not careful, this can mean that you end up with a possessive, controlling partner, an emotionally manipulative partner, or a partner who you settle for because they can provide you with a home and money.

5. Leo

Leos like drama! They like artists, adventurers, and fun types who can keep them entertained and inspired. You love to laugh and appreciate a good inner-child. Unfortunately, this means you tend to go for people who have great, fun personalities, but aren't the most responsible. Don't stack up resentments because you chose to date someone you end up having to take care of.

6. Virgo

Virgos don't play, and sometimes that can be their downfall. And when I say "don't play" I don't mean "don't have fun." I mean they are serious people who like serious partners. If you're a Virgo, then in your search for your rock, you might end up with workaholic or someone who is too serious. Virgos also tend to settle, if they get a partner who looks good on paper.

7. Libra

Libras don't like to be single. They want to settle down and make a home with someone who loves them and wants to be loved by them. They love passionate people, like artists. Unfortunately they tend to attract people who break their hearts by being jealous, indecisive, or controlling. And they'll stay with these people for far too long. If you're a Libra, don't let your strong need for partnership overshadow a partner's shady behavior.

8. Scorpio

Scorpios like to play the field and are notorious for their love of sexual relationships without emotional attachment. It's not that they don't love, it's just that it takes a long time to get to that point. And they don't mind having tons of sex along the way. If you're a Scorpio, don't make the mistake of building a relationship based on sex. And don't don't be so reticent to get your heart involved.

9. Sagittarius

Oh Sagittarius, you adventurous loner, you. Even though you prefer your space and independence, you still need love and attention. Don't make the mistake of dating someone who gives you enough space as to be distant. You also have a weak spot for fun and funny people, but that could lead you toward a child who promised you adventure, then just gets on your nerves.

10. Capricorn

Capricorns are such good grown ups, and they like to date other grown ups. They look for a partner who will be a true partner, meaning they'll contribute financially and emotionally. Don't let your love of stability get in the way of your needs, because even though romance isn't your thing, you still need some loving attention. Your relationship can't be all business, and sometimes that's what you end up with.

11. Aquarius

Aquarius, you love weirdos. If the person you're dating isn't special in some way, you're out, emotionally. Because you can shut down and become cold and distant as easily as you can fall head-over-heels. Don't make the mistake of picking someone you think you can change and don't get blinded by someone's interesting personality so much that you let major things, like abusive behavior, slide.

12. Pisces

Pisces, you have a lot of mistakes to watch out for. Because you are the hopeless romantic of the Zodiac, you tend to get lost in that storybook romance while forgetting to notice that your partner is a drug addict, chronically unemployed, or otherwise damaged. Even when you do realize it, you're powerless for some romance and a pretty face. Just make sure to have some reality in your relationship as well.

Just strive for balance between what you love and what you need, not leaning too far toward one or the other, and you'll save yourself a lot of heartbreak, no matter what your sign.

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