According to a survey from earlier this year, people say “I love you,” around five months into a relationship. Although this doesn’t mean that feelings aren't realized or you're not showing your partner you love them before this mark, in this modern day of romance, five months seem like a respectable amount of time to have passed before dropping the L-word.
Saying “I love you” isn’t always easy. While some cultures say it all the time and want to hear it all the time (France!), other cultures struggle with saying it all (Netherlands!), let alone on a regular basis. Those are some powerful words and depending on where you are in a relationship, it can either seal the deal or have your partner running for the door if they’re not quite ready. But while that may be the case, that doesn’t mean you can’t say other things to make your partner feel loved. Phrases that include support, appreciation, and honesty can make your partner feel loved maybe even more than the words “I love you.”
Do you want to make your partner feel totally loved and adored, but without actually saying the words? Here are 13 other things to say.
1. "I’m Proud Of You"
No matter what’s going on in your partner’s life, telling them that you’re proud of them can really make them feel loved. This is most especially true when they’re having a difficult time of things. It shows ultimate support.
2. "You Make Me Want To Be A Better Person"
Although I realized this line is stolen from As Good As it Gets and tweaked a bit, it’s still a very powerful thing to say. Very few people we know make us want to be better people, so when we come across those people who do and we tell them, it’s going to make their heart soar.
3. "I Love The Person I Am When I’m With You"
There’s no other great compliment in the world that telling the person you love that you love who you are when you’re with them. I mean, there just isn’t. It’s basically code for, “I love more than I’ll ever love anyone else in the world.”
4. "Are You OK?"
I realize this might seem a little boring, but it’s important to check in with your partner, because it not only shows you care, but that you love them. Whether you ask them how their day was, what they’re thinking, or just about the general welfare of their mind and body, it lets them know you give a damn.
5. "You Inspire Me"
While not everyone wants to be a muse, people do like to know that they inspire others, especially if that other is their partner. It’s evidence of how important they are to you.
6. "I Genuinely Appreciate You"
Although I do think you can’t go wrong by thanking your partner for all the good they do for you and bring to your life, I also think that telling them that you truly genuinely appreciate them brings that gratefulness to another level. You’re not just thankful, but appreciative, too. People love to be appreciated.
7. "I’m Sorry"
Want to really let your partner know you love them? Admit when you’re wrong and say you’re sorry.
8. "I’ll Always Have Your Back"
Not only are you saying that your partner will forever have your support, but if push comes to shove, they can count on you being in their corner. You’re a team; it’s you two against the world.
9. "No One Challenges Me The Way You Do"
Similar to being one’s inspiration, people also want to know that they challenge their partner. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone where they’re so stimulation of the minds. Telling your partner that they give you a run for your money, is telling them you love them.
10. "You Never Fail To Bring Out The Best In Me"
Not only does this tell your partner exactly how important they are to your happiness, but it shows them that, while you may not have been incomplete before you met them, they definitely bring something important to your life that others can not.
11. "You Got This"
Maybe it’s not very eloquent, but it gets the point across: You’re ambitious and awesome and you’re going to nail this — “this” being any number of things like an interview, deadline, or even just painting the living room another color.
12. "I Can’t Imagine Growing Old With Anyone Else"
Love means wanting to stick it out for the long run. Telling someone you want to grow old with them is telling them that your feelings are legit, strong, and will last a lifetime.
13. "I Love You And I Like You"
I’m going to take a page from Leslie Knope here, because this adorable phrase says two very important things. Yes, you’re telling your partner that you love them, but in telling them that you like them, too, means this isn’t just love, but friendship, partnership, buddies, lovers… you know, the whole kit and caboodle. And, believe me, everyone wants to be someone’s whole kit and caboodle.
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