Now that the holiday season is here, it's time to start thinking about gifts. I already have a list of people I know and a whole lot of question marks trying to figure out what to get. It can be a stressful time, but luckily, when it comes to your partner, it doesn't have to be. Sure, you should get them something to open that shows how much you care about them — but it's also the perfect opportunity to treat them to some fun in the bedroom.
If there's been a fantasy they've been wanting to try (and it's something you're comfortable with too), this is the time to do it. Or maybe it's the perfect time for an unexpected quickie or to really, really take your time. Whatever you feel like has been lacking, whatever you think you and your partner right really need, this is the perfect opportunity for it. It's really what the holidays are all about.
So take a minute and think about what you and your partner could really use, what would be a fun and useful for your sex life. If you need some ideas, here are seven sex acts that are perfect to give your partner this holiday season, because 'tis the season to give... and receive... and get... and receive... you get the picture:
The holidays are all about the spirit of sharing, so this is the ultimate sex act for giving... and taking. It's not everyone's favorite, but it's fun to try once in a while. It's normally easier with the smaller person on top, but you can mix it up as long as you both feel comfortable and secure. Then enjoy the sex act that's truly in the holiday spirit.
2. A Really Sexy Buildup
Maybe it's some new lingerie, maybe it's a bath and a massage, but really take the time to make the sex act start early — turn it into one long sexy event. If you're feeling brave, some sexy texts throughout the day can create a buildup and momentum to make it a mind-blowing night. Or just light some candles and make sure you really get into the foreplay.
3. A Buzzy Upgrade
Take your favorite position and enhance it with a sex toy that you haven't tried before. A cock ring, a bullet vibrator, in fact I would recommend a vibrating cock ring if you're new to sex toys, as they're not very intimidating and you can both benefit. It's amazing how much a position can change with just a little adjustment.
4. A Really New Position
Whip out the karma sutra and find a position that you haven't tried before. It can be a really fun, bonding experience finding a new position together. Just make sure to keep the lube handy — and maybe some slip-proof socks.
5. A Spontaneous Quickie
Sneak into a secluded area, a changing room in a store, even your living room and have a minimal foreplay, just really going for it, quickie. Not only is it a fun holiday present, it can give your sex life a nice shock if you're in a rut.
6. A Guest Encounter
If you feel comfortable with it and you've discussed it with your partner, it might be a good time to finally have a threesome. This is one where it's really important to set some groundwork first, but if you're both feeling experimental, the benefit can be huge.
7. An Early Morning One-Way Session
Short on time? Wake them up nicely and treat them to a blowjob or some cunnilingus before work.
In this hectic holiday season, make sure you're taking some time to touch base and treat your partner. The best part? All of these gifts to your partner are fun for you too, so make sure the gifts keep on giving.
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