11 Style Mistakes To Avoid On A First Date
Apart from the first day of high school, getting your first speeding ticket, and waiting to hear back from that dream job you applied for, there are few things in life that can make your palms sweat more than a first date.
What if he or she is weird? What if we run out of things to talk about? What should I order? What shouldn't I order?
Since you can't prepare for most of those scenarios ahead of time, try to stop thinking about all of the things that could go wrong. Trust me, it's not worth the energy.
One thing that you can, however, control is what you wear on the date—and I'm definitely not going to judge you for stressing out over this. I get it. You want to make a good first impression, which is totally reasonable. My biggest fear was always choosing the right shoes to wear. I'm 6'2'', so (at least in my mind) my challenge was to find a pair of flats that were as sexy as the sky-high heels that the women around me were wearing. I finally realized that I was probably more comfortable in flats, anyway. That made it easier for me to relax and just be myself, which is what's really important.
In terms of what to wear on a first date, there are so many "rules" floating around that it can be hard to parse out the good from the not-so-good. In the end, it's all about what makes you feel like the best version of yourself. That being said, there are a handful of tried-and-true tips that are applicable for most women in almost any first date scenario. Below are 11 of them, as told by a mix of relationship, dating, and style experts.
1. Wearing Something Out Of Your Hamper
Your best bet for a first date outfit probably isn't that pair of jeans that you've been wearing all week. Chances are that they're all stretched out and have maybe even collected a few stains. Instead, wear something fresh. Here's what dating expert Chiara Atik, author of Modern Dating: A Field Guide, told StyleCaster:
2. Stressing Out Too Much
Laurie Davis, the founder and CEO of eFlirt Expert, tells The Fashion Spot that you shouldn't stress out too much about a first date outfit—it's what you wear on the next few dates that are more important. How you dress after a first date can tell someone how you feel about them more accurately. For example, if you notice that you start dressing down, that probably means that you're becoming more comfortable with the person.
3. Overly Ambitious Style Choices
I'm not suggesting that you forgo your favorite statement piece, but, when in doubt, less is more. In an interview with Lucky, Lauren Conrad spoke about her go-to date night outfit:
Leather leggings are pretty pricey, but this faux-leather pair is just as sleek and stylish. As Conrad suggests, they'd look great under a basic blouse.
4. Bearing It All
Major snaps for having the body confidence to show off some skin, but on a first date, this can be off-putting. Instead, pick your favorite asset to show off. Maybe you have killer arms? Then wear a strapless maxi dress. Here's what sexologist Nikki Goldstein told Yahoo:
This maxi dress is a perfect example of comfy chic and shows just a hint of skin. If you're feeling up for it, wear this with some bright heels. They'll peek out as you walk. Want to show off your legs instead? Try an above-the-knee skirt with a long-sleeved top.
5. Dressing For The Wrong Type of Date
A handful of guys told Cosmopolitan their first date tips. One man explained why wearing your fave LBD may not be the best choice after all:
6. Looking Unapproachable
If you look uncomfortable, then chances are that your date is going to feel uncomfortable around you, so wear something that puts you at ease. This is what celebrity style expert Bobbie Thomas said in an interview with Marlo Thomas:
This cowl neck sweater is super soft and feminine. If you're looking to show a hint of skin, you can pull it a little off the shoulders.
7. Having Your Hair Slicked Back
I love a sock bun just as much as the next gal, but this look might come across as too high maintenance on a first date. Let your beautiful hair be free! "Keep your locks long and free," The Millionaire Matchmaker's Patti Stanger tells Shape. "Men like to imagine running their fingers through it."
8. Applying Too Much Makeup
You don't want what you're wearing to detract from what you're saying. An example of this would be wearing so much lipstick that it comes off all over your teeth. Or if your body glitters starts to decorate the dinner table. Here's what personal stylist Jules Sebastian told Yahoo:
9. Adjusting Yourself During The Date
No matter how many hours you spent getting ready, you always run the risk of a wardrobe malfunction. We've all been there. But instead of pulling a boob scoop at the table, excuse yourself to readjust in the restroom. Relationship mentor Yvonne Allen doled out this advice to Yahoo:
10. Wearing Something That Makes You Feel Like You Have To Suck It In
Why put yourself through the misery of wearing an outfit that you know is too tight when you could be wearing something that you feel good in? Not only will you look better, but you'll also feel more at ease. Here's another tip that Yvonne Allen gave to Yahoo: "Wearing an outfit that is too tight or uncomfortable never makes good sense." First dates can be uncomfortable enough!
This dress is simple, sweet, and a great option for a first date. Its cinched waist will give you some shape while the flowey skirt will give you some room to breath.
11. Forgetting That There's A Possibility of Running Into Someone That Your Date Knows
It's not likely that you'll be spending time with your date's friends on the first date, but be conscious of the fact that we live in a pretty small world. There's no predicting who you might run into. Here's a little first date anecdote on Huffington Post from Michael Kors, who first told this story to author Sarah Z. Wexler for her book Awful First Dates.
I hope that these tips make dressing for that first date even a tad less stressful. Remember that, in the end, it's all about wearing what makes you feel good about yourself. With the right attitude, you can pull off anything. The cliche is true: the most important thing is to just be yourself. Good luck!