7 Things People With A Widow's Peak Will Understand (Including The Endless Ponytail Struggle)

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It's a genetic trait that only seems to affect a handful of us (what could it be?). But those of us lucky or unlucky enough (depending on how you view these things) to be graced with one know the benefits and downfalls of having a widow's peak (dun, dun, dun). Spooky right? Actually, not at all. If you're not already familiar with a widow's peak, it's a small, V-shaped patch of hair right at the top of where the forehead hits the hairline.

I don't know why widow's peaks get such a weird reputation. Maybe it's because they're genetic, and have to be passed on directly by a parent — kind of like that weird tongue thing some of us can do. But in actuality, widow's peaks are quite common. Even though they can hide under hair, they're mainly visible in ponytails or when the person's hair is pulled back. Both men and women can have widow's peaks, and celebrities ranging from Kourtney Kardashian to Colin Farrell have one, too. Who would have thought, amirite?

Considering I have a widow's peak, its existence has certainly crossed my mind more than a few times. When I was younger and finally grew my hair out after years of having it cut super short, I didn't understand why that part of my hair grew outside of my regular hairline. I admit that I even attempted to pluck it goodbye so my ponytail would look sleeker. And while I would never recommend that, or try to do it today, it definitely took time for me to understand my widow's peak, appreciate it for what it was, and accept it as a quintessential trait of my aesthetic.

That process definitely took some time. But let me tell you, my widow's peak and I have been amicably acquainted ever since.

So, in an homage to widow's peaks and to sympathize with all my fellow widow's peak-ers out there, here are seven things humans with a widow's peak will understand.

1. The Frizzy Cowlick

As you'll find out throughout this article, there are many redeeming qualities to having a widow's peak. The frizzy cowlick element of it, however, is not one of them. You don't know how many hours and how many bottles of hairspray I have been through trying to tame the most stubborn, frustrating patch of hair in the world. I'm not bitter about it. I'm not bitter at all. But it's not easy trying to patch it down and make it blend in to the rest of your mane. And the hot, humid, summer weather is hardly helping.

2. The Ever-Changing Part

No one likes the frizzy hair part of a widow's peak, but one serious benefit is being able to switch your part however you like. When I get out of the shower, it's always like a game of roulette deciding where to part my hair that day. I have my basics, like to the right, to the left (is this the cupid shuffle?), or in the center. But it's nice that I don't have to limit my hair parting to just one side, especially since I like switching it up and trying out new styles.

3. Trying To Get Rid Of It

Like I said before, when I first started growing my hair out after my major tomboy phase, my widow's peak became something I grew to resent. It only gave me trouble when I tried to style my hair like the other girls in the sixth grade, and I would wish that one day all those little hairs would just fall out on their own so I could live happily ever after without them. But of course, that didn't work. And even though I plucked them, they grew back.

Long story short, it took time for me to realize that my widow's peak isn't a mistake or a problem I should constantly attempt to fix. It's my widow's peak, and it makes me a part of who I am. Sure, I was young and naive thinking that getting rid of it would be for the best. But in reality, it's become a unique and distinct trait of mine, and now I wouldn't change it for anything.

4. Bangs And The Potential For Them

For the most part, people with widow's peaks have heart-shaped faces. While it's not true for everyone, widow's peakers typically have a wider forehead and a narrow chin. And the benefit in this is that it makes it super easy to pull off bangs.

I've never really been a bangs person (even though Ariana Grande briefly made me rethink that statement), but I think they're a great way to switch things up without making a major change. Whether they're short, wispy, or long, the widow's peak can make bangs more even and complementary with a narrow curve right in the center of your face. Maybe I should reconsider them, or maybe not.

5. Celebrity Hair Muses

We all have that one person whose hair we just totally and completely envy. For me, that person is Blake Lively. Even though my frizzy, dark brown, bushy hair is nothing like her sleek, beach-kissed, dirty blonde locks, we do have one thing in common. You guessed it, a widow's peak.

Even though Lively's hair and mine are totes different, I like examining the way she styles it to get ideas and inspiration on how to style my own 'do. And then I start crying and wishing I actually had her hair. But I don't harp on that.

Other celebrities who have a widow's peak include Nicole Kidman, Eva Longoria, and Anne Hathaway. And like I said before, guys have them too, including Leonardo DiCaprio (swoon) and Keanu Reeves. As cheesy as it might sound, it's nice to be able to follow a celebrity to get inspiration for haircuts or styles. We all have someone in Hollywood to reference, and finding a favorite with a widow's peak is even better.

6. Wondering What The Hell It Means

Do you ever wonder where phrases come from? While I can typically guess what sayings are derived from, the one that has always stumped me was the widow's peak. Having done some light research, I found that a widow's peak was named after the peaked hood widowed wives would wear at the funeral of their significant other back in the day. It's also said to pre-determine a husband or wives' death, when either one of them starts to lose hair and develops a widow's peak in the process (usually common among aging men).

Either way, that's still pretty confusing. How did the phrase ever stick? I guess I'll just have to live with being stumped, and you will too.

7. The Ponytail Struggle

A perfect ponytail is already the hardest thing to accomplish. Throw a widow's peak into the equation and it's pretty much impossible to do. While that little tuft of hair might seem harmless, it poses the biggest threat to a sleek up-do where all your hair has to meet in one place.

There have been a few times when I managed to work around my widow's peak and create a nice ponytail, but it's always a struggle. One that I'm usually too lazy to deal with, honestly. I guess my greasy, oily hair will make another appearance today.

Oh well.