4 Ways To Upgrade Your Foreplay Game

Andrew Zaeh for Bustle

If you have a clitoris, then you probably already know that foreplay is often a necessity. While quickies are great and definitely have their place, the fact that the it takes about 20 minutes to get aroused means that more often than not, foreplay is definitely necessary. Sex tends to be better when we're fully aroused.

And according to a study by sex toy retailer Lovehoney, people put foreplay above all else in their bedroom preferences. A survey of 4,500 people found that when it comes to what people prefer most in relationships, foreplay came in first, with kissing and orgasms coming in second and third, respectively. The reason that foreplay ranked higher than kissing and orgasms is because of the intimacy it creates, the exploration and learning of each other bodies that comes with it, and, of course, because it ups the chances of having an orgasm. In a world where the majority of women can't climax through intercourse alone and need not just clitoral stimulation but a warming up period, it's no surprise that foreplay is so adored. And even if you don't reach orgasm — it doesn't have to be the goal of sex, after all — foreplay still feels amazing.

Since July 31 is National Orgasm Day, Lovehoney is calling July 30 Foreplay Day. In honor of this day, you just might want to step up your foreplay game. Here's how to do that.