My parents have been married for over 20 years. They are extremely supportive of each other's professional pursuits, say "I love you" often, and they bicker all the time. My parents' arguments can range from trivial to serious, from dinner table interruptions to money management. In fact, the things they fight about the most might even surprise you, as the topics can seem as insignificant as eating standing up without a plate. Their banter used to bother me, but at the end of the day I can tell that this type of discourse is part of what makes their marriage work.
According to a recent survey of 75,000 married couples by Lasting, a new marriage health app, the five topics that married couples fight about the most are: how exactly cleaning gets done, what "clean" looks like, how often to have sex, how much mobile phone time to have, and what to spend money on. These are very common problems because they pertain to a couple's day-to-day communication, something that's paramount in relationships.
"The ability to effectively communicate with your partner is one of the best predictors of relationship success," Marriage and Family Therapist Dr. Gary Brown tells Bustle. "The ability to communicate can help you as a couple to explore more possibilities to grow and expand your wishes, hopes, dreams and desires." Luckily, experts have plenty of tips for settling the most common arguments from Lasting's survey so that you don't have to bring your problems to bed at night.