6 Awkward Thoughts You Should Never Keep From Your Partner Vs. 3 That Can Remain Private

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When you're in a relationship, it can be tough to figure out which thoughts you should share with your partner, and which ones are OK to keep private — especially when said thoughts are awkward, embarrassing, or super revealing. Do you have to come clean? Can you keep them a secret?

Well, the choice is up to you. "It’s perfectly fine to keep some things from your partner," Jonathan Bennett, relationship and dating expert at Double Trust Dating, tells Bustle. "If the incident has no relevance to your current relationship and doesn’t impact your partner, then it’s usually fine to keep it a secret."

It's also OK to keep important things private presently, with the goal of sharing them in the future, once you're ready. "Being vulnerable can help you feel closer to your partner, but if there are things in your life that you haven’t processed through yet, then you might not want to share these until you have a better handle on how you truly feel about what happened, what you learned from it, etc.," Heidi McBain, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle.

All of that said, there are a few awkward things you may want to share with your significant other as soon as possible, such as health concerns. As Bennett says, "If an issue is major, impacts your partner, or will be discovered eventually, then it’s best just to be upfront about it." Here are a few awkward things you might want to share with your partner, as well as a few things you can definitely keep private, according to experts.