6 Gifts To Give A Partner Whose Love Language Is Words Of Affirmation


As a self-proclaimed verbomaniac, if you want to win me over, you need to do so with words. Not only does this prove that I'm a verbomaniac, but it also means my love language is words of affirmation. And it just might be the reason I've dated so many musicians... you write a song about me, and I'm yours. Even if the song is about how I can be a real pain in the ass.

The concept of love languages came about in 1995 by Dr. Gary Chapman. It was in his book, The Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, that Dr. Chapman theorized that we don't all speak the same love language. In fact, there are five possible languages that we can speak: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Receiving Gifts. At its core, our love language simply means how we show our love and in what way we need to receive our love. For example, someone whose love language is physical touch isn't going to see a poem written specifically for them in the same light as someone whose love language is words of affirmation, and vice versa.

"[Understanding love languages] not only requires understanding the person and how they are different you, but that what is important to them is different from what is important to you," senior matchmaker and dating coach Lori Salkin tells Bustle, "and being able to separate your wants and needs from theirs to give them what they want and trust in return that they will give you what you want while neither of you is acting for yourself, but only for the other."

If you're with someone whose love language is words of affirmation and, because your love language is anything but that, you're totally clueless as to what to get them for a gift, here are seven great ideas to get you thinking. And, one of the best parts about being with someone whose love language is words of affirmation is it won't cost you much at all — but it will require you get creative.