7 Arguments That Don't Go Away After The First Year Of Your Relationship

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Many long-term couples see growing old together as a romantic, dreamy ideal. Yet the stereotype of the bickering older couple still prevails. It's possible this is because, whether or not they end up being the kiss of death in a relationship, there are certain argument couples may not be able to get past. If you and your partner are early on, but already seem to be having the same fight over and over, it's possible it will continue down the line.

“I believe there are certain arguments in a relationship that [can be] impossible to overcome," LGBT-affirming therapist Katie Leikam tells Bustle. "Those are primarily arguments that are based on value and moral judgements because thought arguments are based in thought and belief systems that are very difficult to change." Whether or not you and your partner feel comfortable allowing room for a major disagreement in your relationship is up to a variety of factors, but if you settle into this reality you may still end up butting heads from time to time.

"The deeper purpose of the committed relationship, or marriage, is to be able to accept differences and stay connected, despite them," licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) Evie Shafner tells Bustle. "We need to know how to talk and listen in a way that helps us maintain that connection, not destroy it." With proper counseling, there's always a possibility of fixing your relationship problems, and solving an argument.

And even if you cannot overcome one of these differences, you may be able to learn how to argue in a healthier way. So don't panic just yet. Here are seven arguments that you may not get past after the first year.