With all of the themed decorations, heart-shaped chocolate boxes that seem to line every single store, and the well-dressed couples snuggling in restaurants, Valentines Day when you're single can be straight up nauseating.
For almost every Valentines Day that I've been single, I have admittedly spent the day filled with bitterness and resentment for the happy couples I would see frolicking the streets. I felt a sense of anger that I was (still) single, and more importantly a deep sense of sadness that I did not have anyone to give me a card or chocolates. I strategically tried to plan my day where I could avoid public spaces, and I cloistered myself in my room, where I was safe from the evil and permeating influence of Valentine's Day. Until last year.
Last year, I wanted to make a change to how I spent my Valentine's Day. I had recently underwent a tremendous growth where I had come to value myself and appreciate my independence. This was the year I was going to make a change and make the active, mindful choice to be happy. My girlfriends and I were determined to spend our Valentines Day together, uplifting each other and celebrating life.
After much deliberation and a boozy Mimosa brunch, we arrived at the conclusion that we were going to throw an Anti-Valentine's Day. We excitedly created a Facebook event page, with the cover image of a heart broken in half, and we invited all of our single friends. Once the day came, we decorated my apartment with heart-shaped confetti and pink lighting, which we created by covering my lamps with pink tissue paper. We served pink sherbert-spiked punch and all of our favorite treats. We danced and cherished each other's company. Finally, I felt that I had learned the true meaning of Valentine's Day: to express our gratitude and love for the people who mean the most for us.
If you're feeling down on this Valentine's Day, here are eight ways that you can uplift yourself and celebrate singlehood: