As much as we'd all love to have ample time to devote to sex, our busy lives sometimes prevent it. Between work responsibilities, social engagements, and everything else in between (movie marathons, anyone?) making time for sex can feel difficult. Did you ever think your life would be so packed that you'd actually say out loud, "I just don't have time for sex," ever in your life? I know I never did, yet here I am.
Because making time for sex can sometimes be trying, whether you're in a relationship or not, it's still an important part of a healthy life; so important that time should be made for it. It may sound ridiculous, but scheduling sex could be the best way to make it a priority. "Set a reminder," sex and relationship counselor Julie Jeske tells Bustle. "It sounds silly and not very 'sexy,' but the truth is, people are so busy that sex and pleasure can often fall off the radar... People really want sex and desire to be spontaneous, and often worry that scheduling something will take the passion or mystery out of it. However, we schedule anything else that is important to us — doctors visits, exercise, time with friends."
So, before your busy schedule takes over your sex life, be proactive and make some time for it. And then, you get to the fun part. Here are nine sex positions for when you want to stay on top of your sex game and everything else you have on your plate. (Reminder, these positions can be done with two women as well)
1. Doggy Style
How to do it: After you get onto your hands and knees, have your partner also get on their knees and penetrate you from behind.
Why it's good for when you don't have a lot of time: Doggy style, being one of the most favorite positions, will get you off fast, if you can orgasm from G-spot stimulation. If you can't, then a little manual help on your clitoris is just the ticket.
2. Standing Rear Entry
How to do it: While standing but bent over, have your partner stand behind you and penetrate you from the rear.
Why it's good for when you don't have a lot of time: Once again, we have a rear entry penetration which is definitely going to keep things speedy for a male partner. As for you, you get the G-spot stimulation and/or clitoral stimulation, if you rub in the right spots.
3. X Marks The Spot
How to do it: For this one, you want to choose a flat surface on which you can lay while your partner penetrations your from a standing position. Make sure your legs are crossed at the knees or ankles.
Why it's good for when you don't have a lot of time: When you cross your legs, you give a tightness to your vagina that's pretty phenomenal — which feels phenomenal for both of you — and can prevent intercourse from being too long. As someone who has struggled to climax via G-spot stimulation alone, I can say that tightening up those vaginal muscles and crossing your legs will give you, too, enough sensation that you'll (ideally) orgasm, too.
4. The Bridge
How to do it: While on your back with you partner between your bent knees, lift your hips so they're in line with your partner's hips. From here, have your partner grab your hips so they can pull you into them, while you push yourself against them, using your upper back as leverage.
Why it's good for when you don't have a lot of time: The intensity that comes from this position is a win-win for both you and your partner. While they have the control of their sensation level, your clitoris is front and center for stimulation, definitely making this an option for when you're short on time.
5. Doggy With Vibrator
How to do it: Once you get into the traditional doggy style position, reach for a vibrator to stimulate your clitoris.
Why it's good for when you don't have a lot of time: For starters, the doggy style position, as mentioned above, is spectacular for when you have minimal time. Toss in a vibrator, which is bound to stimulate far quicker than fingers, and you've hit the jackpot.
6. Mutual Masturbation
How to do it: Choosing spots that are comfortable for both you and your partner, lock eyes, talk dirty (if you want), and proceed to masturbate.
Why it's good for when you don't have a lot of time: When you're in control of your orgasm, you can climax as quickly or as slowly as you want, making this great when your time is limited.
7. The Sofa Brace
How to do it: Grab, borrow, steal, buy — whatever you have to do to get one — a sofa. Then, as if going into doggy style position, bend over the side or back so your partner can penetrate your from behind.
Why it's good for when you don't have a lot of time: What we have here, again, is a sort of modified doggy style position which is exactly what you want when you don't have much time.
8. The Plow
How to do it: While on your back, roll your hips backward so your legs are over your head. Next, have your partner penetrate you from here. You can rest your legs on their shoulders.
Why it's good for when you don't have a lot of time: When it comes to positions that are all about really deep penetration, this one is definitely on the list. With deep penetration comes more sensation and more sensation leads to quicker climaxes.
How to do it: While standing, with both of you facing in the same direction, have your partner penetration from behind.
Why it's good for when you don't have a lot of time: Because it's both a rear entry and standing position, you can pretty much do this one anywhere and do it very quickly, too.
Just because your life is packed with dozens and dozens of things you have to do, doesn't mean your sex life has to suffer. Sometimes all you need is a sofa.
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