While Bachelor Nation's resident single mom claims she won't be returning to the franchise, don't count her out entirely. Three-season veteran Amanda Stanton's Bachelor memoir is being written, so buckle up. Or maybe just drive carefully and use your blinkers, because the 27-year old says that the text will only be "a little bit" about her relationships. Anyone hoping to get the low-down on failed couplings between Bachelor Nation alums should look elsewhere.
Those looking for dirty laundry might find Andi Dorfman's book It's Not Okay to be slightly more their style, because Stanton insists that her book will be all about that positivity. "I've been writing it for a little over a year now, and it's just been therapeutic... it's been my therapy, in a way," she told Entertainment Tonight. "I still am a very positive person and whatever relationship drama I’m going through, I always do try to be positive. At the end of the day, my book is going to be more positive than some tell-all trashing people."
Sure, fans might be bummed to miss out on all that dirt in the form of Stanton's full, no-holds-barred side of the story, this could be a good thing. Audiences have already had plenty of opportunities to watch the drama unfold between the 27-year-old and her romantic prospects. Now, this is our opportunity to get to know Stanton. Because, even after a season of The Bachelor and two of Bachelor in Paradise, we don't really know all that much about the single mom.
We know she has two kids, Kinsley and Charlotte, and an ex-husband. We know she likes avocado toast and hates confrontation. We know she's best friends with the Twins, Haley and Emily Ferguson, no matter how much havoc they wreak in Paradise. We know that she wants to fall in love again and have more kids, and that she's looking for a "normal guy" outside of the franchise now. But we don't really know much about who Stanton is, what she likes, and what drives her. That's the missing puzzle piece that this memoir can and should provide, on Stanton's own terms.
In the meantime, it sounds like Josh Murray and Robby Hayes can breathe a sigh of relief. No matter how stormy their histories with Stanton, she's insisting they won't be painted as villains in her book. Stanton got engaged to Murray during the Season 3 finale of Bachelor in Paradise, only to break up acrimoniously later. Things got pretty heated between the pair, and they didn't seem to leave things in a very positive place. So, the financial adviser is likely as surprised as the Bachelor Nation audience at the young mom's claim that she won't be dragging him in her memoir.
Robby Hayes is likely similarly relieved, after he and Stanton connected on Season 4 of Bachelor in Paradise. The pair began as friends before starting to date on the show, and even continued their relationship back in the States after the season wrapped. But things have since soured, and the former couple has been throwing some pretty extensive shade at each other on social media. The self-proclaimed "influencer" has taken heat from fans for retweeting someone criticizing Stanton for leaving her kids to do a reality show. And the single mom herself retaliated with what she claims is proof that Hayes allegedly cheated on her.
But apparently, the California native will be leaving almost all of that drama on the internet, as she told ET that her book is, "not completely about [my relationships]. But there's going to be a little bit in there." And, cheer up, because it sounds like exactly the kind of balance you'd want in a memoir about a public figure. A little bit of the past, a little bit of the present, and a little bit of thoughts on the future.
We've only gotten to know the reality star in the context of the men she falls in love with on television, so it's honestly a positive sign that she'll be keeping the focus on herself in this new venture. There's a brand new Amanda Stanton in town, and she doesn't have to think of herself in relation to any man. She can stand alone and be judged as herself, and it sounds like her memoir will reflect that.