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We might catch a lot of flak from other generations, but personally, I'm not ashamed to be classified as a millennial: we're a generation that's embraced the sex-positive movement, talked openly about the importance of consent, and shown that we accept everyone, no matter what their sex life looks like. But just because we're more open about sex doesn't necessarily mean the average millennial's sex life is that far outside what most other generations would consider the norm.
If you need evidence, take the recent ranking of millennials' favorite sex positions, courtesy of the 2018 Millennial Sex Survey by SKYN Condoms. According to their survey of more than 4,000 sexually active individuals ages 19-36, the go-to positions aren't anything out-of-the-box. In fact, the top three sex positions — doggy style, missionary, and cowgirl — haven't changed at all since last year. But why is it that a generation that's so sexually open still tends to fall back on the more classic sex positions?
"These sex positions are classics for a reason — they feel good!" Dr. Emily Morse, sex and relationship expert, Doctor of Human Sexuality, and host of top-rated podcast Sex With Emily, tells Bustle. "Plus, when you’re not as sexually experienced, trying out something new isn’t always going to be the most comfortable to execute. When you think about sex positions, there are really only six basic ones with everything else being a variation of that. So while the most popular may be doggy style, missionary, and cowgirl, that doesn’t mean that people are all doing it in the same exact way every time."
As nice as it is to get creative and experiment in bed from time to time, it's normal to have certain go-to sex positions that remain your faves — even if they're what some might call "boring." If you ask me, though, there's no such thing as a boring sex position: as long as it works for you, it shouldn't matter whether or not it's ~unique~ by anyone else's standards.
Here's a breakdown of millennials' top three favorite sex positions, and Morse's tips on how to modify and spice up each one — that way, you're even less likely to get tired of your faves.
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Doggy Style
There's something primal and sexy about a from-behind sex position, and apparently my fellow millennials agree. According to the 2018 Millennial Sex Survey, 31 percent of millennials said that doggy style was their preferred position.
How To Freshen Up Doggy Style: "During doggy style, instead of the receiving person arching their back, they can lay flat on their stomach with their legs closer together, making it a tighter squeeze for the person penetrating," Morse says. "If you’re looking to bring a vibrator into the mix, you can have the receiving person lay on top of a small vibe, giving them extra stimulation to the clitoris or pubic area."
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Missionary
For 22 percent of millennials surveyed, their favorite sex position is the ultimate classic: missionary. Hey, there's no shame in that — missionary is a super versatile position and there's no denying that it gets the job done (and done well, I might add).
How To Freshen Up Missionary: "Putting a wedge or a pillow underneath the receiving person’s hips during missionary will elevate their pelvis for better coital alignment," Morse says. "Basically, when everything matches up, orgasm is a lot easier to achieve."
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Cowgirl
It feels good to take charge in bed from time to time, and if you're someone who prefers to be on top, you're not alone: 18 percent of millennials said cowgirl was their go-to sex position.
How To Freshen Up Cowgirl: "For cowgirl, the person on bottom can sit up against a wall, bringing the two people closer together which will make it easier for the person on top to control their movements and allow the person on bottom to be able to kiss the neck, breasts, ears, etc.," Morse says.
So no matter what your tried-and-true, favorite sex position might be — whether it's a certified classic or something totally unique — remember that as long as you're doing what feels good for you and your partner, you really can't go wrong.
