How To Know If Your Relationship Is Failing, Based On The Excuses You’re Making For Your Partner

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Making excuses is never really a good thing in any situation. But for some reason, experts say making excuses for your partner when things aren't going well is actually pretty common. So why do we do it?

"We make excuses for our partner for a variety of reasons," relationship coach, Jenna Ponaman, CPC, ELI – MP tells Bustle. Maybe a breakup is inconvenient for your current situation. Maybe you're really just in love and can't picture your life with anyone else. Or maybe it's a fear of being single again.

"Ultimately, we do it because we don’t want to admit that a relationship we have put so much energy and love into is doomed to fail," When you love someone with all your heart, you want that happily-ever-after because you're invested and you're working hard to make that happen.

But when you see that your partner is not doing the same in return, Ponaman says the tendency is to down play it. "We want to tell ourselves that it's all in our heads or that our partners are 'trying' in their own way," she says. "We don’t want to face the hurt that comes with a relationship ending."

So is your relationship really just going through a bump in the road or are you just making excuses for your partner? Here are some excuses you might make when your relationship is failing, according to experts.