The 15 Incompatible Qualities That End Relationships, According To Matchmakers

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If you're looking for long-term relationship success, finding someone you're compatible with is key. Although not entirely impossible, being in a relationship with someone who's completely different from you in every way can make things a little more challenging. According to matchmakers, there are certain sets of incompatible qualities between partners that are much more likely to lead to relationship failure than success.

"There are some obvious ones, like not wanting the same things in life, lifestyle choices in terms of travel or location, and relationship style (i.e. monogamous versus polyamorous)," Melody Kiersz, Professional Matchmaker at digital matchmaking service, Tawkify, tells Bustle.

Other more subtle incompatibilities, she says, are seen in each person's values. For instance, someone who cares about honesty is unlikely to be happy with someone who's constantly lying. Or someone who has a social justice mindset will probably not be happy with someone who's super materialistic, unless they also have an altruistic side.

"In my view, the most important things for longer-term success are that both people want similar things in life, they have similar top values, and they're able to commit to the relationship at the same level," Kiersz says. But if two people with incompatible qualities aren't willing to learn the communication skills necessary to make sure things work for both of them, experts say there's a good chance the relationship won't work.

So here are 15 incompatible qualities matchmakers say aren't likely to lead to relationship success.