Valentine's Day is just around the corner, and that means different things for different people. While some love February 14 so much that they actually count down the seconds to its arrival, for others Valentine's Day can cause anxiety. You also don't necessarily have to be single to feel anxious about the day either. Even some people in relationships can feel anxiety over Valentine's Day, because it's been so hyped-up and overly commercialized, making it seem like the most important day of the year.
"We receive a lot of messaging from society that, not only must we be in relationships, we must be in the perfect relationship," Allison Zamani, AMFT/APCC, of the Center for Mindful Psychotherapy, tells Bustle. "If you find yourself judging yourself for being single, or feeling down because your relationship is not all that you want it to be, try to take care of yourself."
Zamani suggests reframing Valentine's Day. Instead of succumbing to its pressure and the often unrealistic expectations that come with it, see it as a day to love yourself and others in an open, stress-free way that doesn't play into the hype. You don't have to be locked into the commercialized concept of Valentine's Day; you can make it whatever you want it to be. Hell, you can even disregard the day all together.
But because Valentine's Day anxiety is a real concern for some, here's what to do to keep that anxiety manageable.